Having a bad day

Really annoying isn't it.  Dad was up at 1.30 I made him a drink then sister got up so we were all tired but awake in the small hours...

He's asleep now.I slept from about 3am though. 

I didn't know grief did this. We see funeral director today.

Jx

Hello all, 

yep, that was  me in the first several weeks. As soon as I lay down in bed "ping" I was wide awake!

Am getting better, not sleeping every night but on the plus side It is getting a bit better so be reassured.

Sleep well if you can x

Xx

Partially sorted the funeral.  Now having calico wrap for Mum as her clothes would've had to be cut because her limbs had swollen.  Clothes would be laid on top...it didn't sound peaceful.  Now she'll be wrapped and we'll put favourite scarf in with her..

No hearse and carried by people informally dressed. 

Mum had asked for simplicity plus flowers and NO TOYS (she taught toy making).

We're now eating fish and chips. 

Jxxx

Sounds like a truly tough day.  Hang in there, just do the best you can and the hell with what anyone may think!!  I am sending you love, one family to another.

Jenny,

We've done the same with my mum.  She'd lost so much weight everything would have been too big.  Mum said she didn't want a fuss, didn't want us to spend lots of money but did want lots of flowers.  We're not having funeral cars partly because mum hated going in them, she always just wanted to be with us.  I want to be with my girls on the day, it will be an awful time for them.

Going to register mum's death tomorrow, then collecting the will.  Got someone coming to see me about probate on Thursday but I might do it myself.  Not sure yet.

Still falling asleep on the sofa and not sleeping at night.  So tired. 

Dreading going back to work but I know I must.

Hugs to all. X

Is or has anyone done the probate themselves?

No but interested to hear. Sister and I are exeutors simple will all goes to Dad. No idea about probate!

Jx

I think it might still have to go to probate Jenny. 

I've just started looking on here:

www.moneyadviceservice.org.uk/.../sorting-out-the-estate-when-there-is-a-will

Just what we need! May use their solicitor.

Hug.

Jx

Reading posts. So deeply personal this time. Elenium and Jenny such sad syncronicity in your lives. Not all Estates need probate. Mums doesnt. I question and understand whys etc normally but on this i didnt. Mum had calico too. She had no interest in clothes in life. We sent her off with letters, cards, photos and both pairs of glasses. I miss her so much. She is in my bedroom. I cant stand the idea of scattering her ashes but my brother is pushing it. My family is fractured.