Having a bad day

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Sorry but I'm having a bad day and I just need to let it out.  I woke up feeling like I've had no sleep and really down.  Mum's been bad this week - a lot of pain and, I think, sliding into depression - so I'm in overdrive on worrying about her.  My sister is with her today so I don't need to go round to see mum although I probably will drop round later.  I thought I would throw myself into cleaning the house so make myself busy and then I'd start to feel better.  My fatal mistake was asking my 18 year old daughter to help.  She had a major strop.  I tried to keep calm as I realise that she is worrying about my mum too but it was hard.  I tried to talk to her but she just got worse and worse so I gave up.  Then my husband made sarcastic comments about it all - again he is worrying and his mum is also not well - so I am still trying to keep a lid on it.  But I feel even worse now.  I'm now sitting on the sofa in my pyjama's watching old episodes of Grey's Anatomy without the will to do anything else.  I just keep crying and feel so very very sad. 

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    Jenny, thankyou for my very undry February. For you of course I will do my very best. Sante (italian cheers?) x

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    Maisiemae Dad from exotic Tooting. Both Mum and Dad fell in love with Italy after their first proper holiday abroad to Lake Garda when I was 18. Mum more so than Dad maybe.

    My last holiday with Mum was to Sorrento in 2014. I think she knew it was her last trip.


    Local Italians here love her.


    She was (past tense can't be right) very stylish her background in window dressing shows in this house. I didn't inherit her great style but my sister did.  She was 5'1" blue eyes dark hair still at 76 always with a scarf brooch or necklace. 


    I will carry her 1960 red leather handbag to the funeral and again on the 28th for Eleniums Mum.


    Dad hates the bed empty next to him and sleeps with the light on.


    I must write my words for the day. Struggling with bad flashbacks.


    My heart aches for you Yantibee..Poppy too so unfair but I say again I really do think she's with Gill.


    We are letting mad cat in a lot..still  bites me sometimes..not a real bite..strange cat.


    Jx

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    Maisiemae I never thanked you enough for your offer of help..events overtook us. Dad's mind now improved and I told him of your kindness.  He said what an extraordinary person. 

    Jx

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    PERHAPS THEY ARE NOT STARS IN THE SKY,
    BUT, RATHER OPENINGS WHERE OUR LOVED ONES SHINE DOWN TO LET US KNOW THEY ARE HAPPY

    Inuit Thought

    I included this on mums Service Sheet and has given me comfort over the past few weeks when the sky is clear at night. Thought I would share with all those in the grip of grief - much love Maisie Mae x

    X

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    Jenny. My mother was extraordinary, im merely a trainee. Mwah mwah xxx

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    Power to the People Tooting Bec, i bet yr pops has heard that more than once! They sound lovely and dear Jenny you have so much style, it oozes from your words. Doesnt have to translate into clothes, just flair, if you got it you got it. Hope mums Italian boys made you feel loved when you told them xxx

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    I looked back to see when i found this thread and realised i used to hide and just read it and felt like dipping my toe in around page 8. It feels like forever ago but it was end October, the biting cat. Lovely Elenium starting it off. I love  your children expressing their grief in their own ways, the doll and scarves. Very touching. I cant thank you all enough. How to say you saved my sanity when i was already insane with panic, fear and loss and hopeless x

  • Oh Yantibee, I'm so sorry about your lovely Poppy.  I have two dogs and know how I would feel.  They are family too.

    Sending you a big hug. X

    Elenium

  • Just bought a kindle book.  The default device that they are sent to is my mum's.

    Elenium

  • Yantibee, another sadness for you and your boys.

    At least you could help Poppy not to suffer any longer. 

    She will be with Jill.

    Take care of yourself  and your boys

    X

    Take a deep breath ... then on with the day.