Having a bad day

Jenny,

How's your Dad?

Hugs

Sue xx

Thank you, I have realized finally that there is absolutely nothing anyone can say to anyone to make us feel better.  The whole cancer things just sucks and it is ok to feel like your world is going upside down.  Because it is.

Elenium I had to wash mums clothes she went to hospital in..illogical but I wanted hospitalness gone from then.

Been doing mum related paper work today. Got death certificates and green form.  

You're very organised. Not got funeral booked yet as mum wanted us to open her instructions after her death.  Will ring funeral director we like tomorrow. 

Shopgood Dad OK.  He was with mum three times at hospital during her horrors and did some grieving then it was frightening for all. He did his best to soothe her it was very touching. He finds it hard to sleep without her there.  Health wise he is more Dad -like now...the infection must be gone now. Poor Dad coming out of confusion straight into shock then grief.

Aunt wanted a certain casket. ..nope...

Flowers are arriving..at door a lot..

Mum loves (not yet in past tense..hmm. .denial?) scarves too. May put one in the coffin.

Sister weeping all day today. Yesterday I was.

Hug.

Jx

Happy smiling faces are how she would want to be remembered and so lovely your daughter finally has her scarf collection. Your mum would be tickled pink!

Tears come from nowhere at times. They still do, i expect they always will xxxx

You do whatever feels right. And let the f/wits f/wit off. The aunt who didnt want too much information? Pah. System seems faster in London than Norfolk (although that doesnt surprise me as everything is slow where mum lived), past tense very hard. One day or hour at a time. Do let is know what both yr mums wish is, i will join in and be with you with scarf or any colour xxxxx

My cousin rang.  My aunt (mum's sister in law) died this morning.  Does it never end??

I'm still using present tense for My Alan. In the same way that even though 'his' car is now 'my' car it feels weird saying 'my car'. I keep saying Alan's car.Hugs xxx

I don't know any of you on here, so please forgive me while I try to catch up. I really need a group and all of you sound like you are going through the same things I am. Love to you all!

Rebebbs. We found in each other by chance some 78 pages ago! and have been through a lot together. We have now all three lost our darling mums very very recently, hours days and weeks ago. Also lovely Shopgoodgirl Yantibee and Bobles and more joined in. Not an exxlusive group, very inclusive and for me a lifeline. Whereas my loss was my mother only a few weeks ago the agony of losing anyone dear is heart wrenching. Its been a very honest open communications and again 'the friends' on here have followed our stories, if only they werent so real! Anyway welcome to you and anyone. Personally im in the grieving trying to sort out who i am again along with family issues stage xxx

I know, Elenium. My friend has just had an op for bowel cancer. 

Xx