Having a bad day

El are you with mum now? X

Hello Elenium,

My Dad is 85 years old. he has diabetes, end stage kidney failure, arthritic hip and dodgy knees, plus a heart condition, and now advanced anal cancer. bless him, he is suffering, but remains in good spirits. TBH his life is very easy at the Chelsea Pensioners, they look after him very well, and he doesn't have to worry about anything, (apart from his health of course). I am fortunate that I am able to attend most appointments with him, as I have now retired from my teaching job (I have Fibromyalgia). So,I think you are a very brave lady to cycle in London! I wish you and your Mum well. It is a horrible thing to see your parent so unwell, but it sounds like you are doing an amazing job.

Take care, Anneteresa

Elenium, Jenny , maisiemae as I lay in my bed reading the days posts my heart breaks for you all. I am so sorry you are going thtthis as I am for myself. I can offer nothing to you but my heart felt love and sorrow and if it is of any comfort although we have never and may never meet I am there for you in some way offering you my ear for you to vent the pain and a shoulder to cry on and a hug . I miss my Jill's hugs so badly . Things seem better for a moment with a hug from someone who knows and cares so I send one to you 

I hope tomorrow is better x

Hello yantibee,

Life is so cruel, sometimes you think it is just not going to end, what can happen next! But you cope, and I am sorry to hear about Poppy, I hope she rallies, pets can be such a real comfort. I have my lodgers cat sitting on me a t the moment, and I do feel that a real comfort. Also how you were able to reach out to your MIL, a real testament to how strong you are ( you might not know it ). I am the same in that I think family is everything, and I will not abandon them, no matter what! My daughter and grandaughter live with me, and my daughter has mental health problems, it is difficult most of the time, but I will not abandon her! Sending strength and positive vibes to help you cope with the next very difficult hurdle you have to face.

Take care,Anneteresa

Elenium.

Neither can I.

Jx

Jenny and Elenium

Hold onto who you are. Ask that mums are sedated/calming are added to driver if they are on driver. This is what we did. I understand, really I do. Much love my friendsx

Yantibee. No hug will replace Jills. But if you had physically received the hugs from us cyber but very real folk you would be bruised with love! X your words and others soothe me although i feel some guilt at my current hurdle sharing although the disease caused my current position. 

Jenny and Elenium,

Maisiemai is so right, the calming sedative meds do really help.

So with you both. It's terrible, horrific I know.

Love to all. X

Mum is sedated more pain relief...but they should do it without my asking.. glad I got up and just came here...drove like lunatic..short journey....

She was hot smelly uncomfortable couldn't move and had a dry mouth.

When will she go?

Jx

When I got here this morning mum was asleep so I just held her hand until she woke up.  When she did and saw me she seemed really upset and wouldn't let go of my hand for a long time.  She can't speak at all today.  She's just mouthing the words but even that is too much for her.  It's so painful for her to swallow. I managed to get her to have some apple juice but only a little bit.  I've asked if she can have some soluble paracetamol for her throat.  She had some yesterday and it seemed to help.  She wanted a cup of tea but didn't want me to leave to make it.  When I did I broke down in the kitchen.  THis is just so shit!  

I've put something on our family WhatsApp, both my brothers have read it but neither replied. I can't even get angry with them this morning.

Thank you for all your replies.  It helps.

X