I don’t know if this is something anyone else has come across but when my brother has a visit from his hospice nurse, he always seems to be having a good day?
I don’t know if it’s adrenaline of the visit but I feel like they are only seeing him when he is sitting up, comfortable with his meds and lucid. So maybe aren’t seeing the real day to day picture that I am. After a visit I am dealing with pain, temperature spikes, confusion and anxiety but they aren’t witnessing any of that?
I’m feeding back to them but I am starting to feel mentally exhausted and stressed by the responsibility of it when they aren’t seeing it all. Does that make any sense?
If you feel they don't listen to the reality you're seeing and it's possible use you're phone to video or record what you're seeing ,then show them that.
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