Hi, so I dont know if this is the right forum to post this in, a few days ago my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. At the moment everything just feels pretty normal, its not that i am denying this fact, but i am also one of these firm believers of that we all need go at some stage.
I have been through the process of death numerous times before, with older family members or friends (which in hindsight was my worst passing to date). but, I have found whenever I have wished to talk about that person, which I feel has been my way of grieving in the past, I've never been allowed to, people just tend to close up or not want to talk. this caused me to close up sort of "put up and shut up", which as you can guess has had a massive effect on my mental health.
I have always been the emotional support in my family, through through my mental health and cutting toxic people out of my life, I dont have any sort of "friendship group", which under normal circumstances is hard. this isnt to say I dont have people i am friendly with, but they are the sort of "friends" that only talk to you when they want something or they need some support, but you know then the table turns, theres no'one to be found. Because I am missing this element to my life, Im scared that when all this does hit me, I wont have anyone to support me emotionally. all i seem to have at the moment is " fake sympthy", nobody is really checking to see how i am "unpropted". I dont want to be that person who posts about something on social media to get some attention, as im not like that. but other than my family, who lets me fair will lean on me, who do i talk to, who can i lean on.
I know this isnt a question, I just need some sort of outlet.
Hi WomanAlone ,
My name is Dylan and I work in the Online Community team.
I'm very sorry to read about your dad's terminal diagnosis. Im glad you chose our Community as a outlet. Our Community is here to provide a safe and understanding space for you to express yourself. Sharing your experiences and feelings can be an essential part of coping and healing. Please feel free to post as much as you need/want within the Community. If you'd like, you could post in our Emotional support forum.
Alongside accessing peer support from the Online Community, you’re always welcome to speak with the specialist teams on the Macmillan Support line if you need a listening ear. The Support Line teams are there to help every day from 8am to 8pm on 0808 808 00 00. You can also send an email or start a live webchat during the opening hours. They are there to chat and they can also let you know what other, relevant support is available.
Please don't hesitate to reach out. The Online Community is here to listen and support whenever you need it.
Best wishes,
Dylan
Macmillan's Online Community Team
