Giving up

FiveO 20 days ago

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I know I have posted this before but it has got worse. He.is now complaining that I am treating hom like a moron, I'm just trying to help. So when I told him he has to start taking even more responsibility for himself, he called me childish.

I'm afraid I lost it, told him I know he is sick. But I.have the sword of damacles over my head at the moment waiting for the result of the urgent ct scan to see if my cancer has returned, which was ordered after the first blood test after my op in January came back with a cea marker of 3.8. I also told him if worrying about that and him is me being childish then so be it.

He has spent the day in the unit having chemo so I know I should be giving.him some slack. But, it is so hard.

Sorry for the self pitying rant, but there is no one to talk to apart from this forum.

Maureen 20 days ago

It’s not a self pitying rant at all. Like you, this forum is my main support. It’s hard when you’re having to take responsibility for him while you’re also worried about your own health. I don’t know if my reply is any help, I just wanted to let you know that I fully understand your situation.

Arlandria 18 days ago

Aw FiveO, so sorry to hear. Big hugs.

Yes, your situation is poo. You have to do you, though.

It is one of the most terrible times for relationships, straining everyone involved, but even more so if you're not well or worrying about something, too!

Rant away! Send it out to the people here, and someone will resonate with it, someone will reply, someone will recognise.

It sounds like you need to 'do a bit of you' if you can. It needn't cost a fortune - take a book to a cafe or park. Sit and watch the birds. Whatever it is, give yourself a little hug.

Know you're allowed to be upset, cranky, and to feel like giving up. But I hope that talking helps. Explain your feelings and ask about his. Ask that it not be an insult contest, but rather a way to let feelings out so the other person can hear them, share theirs, and hopefully open up a conversation.

Good luck - and please, rant away x

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