Struggling

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I'm at work and fighting back tears. Mum recently been informed she has secondary cancer, having had and (wet thought recovered from) breast cancer a few years ago. 

She's currently waiting on biopsy results but looking like it's  spread to few places. Advised she's inoperable and she'll likely end up with palliative care following any treatment.

Very difficult watching my dad too, who also has health problems - really struggle, he's not sleeping well or eating.

They're both mid 60s. Visited last night, as mum home from hospital while waiting for test results, had bed organised etc. My dad was in tears as we were leaving.

My wife, young kids and I live about 40 miles away and it's killing me I can't do more to help mum.

Just stressed, upset, scared, worried, tired and feel like my mum has been given a death sentence. 

  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Im feeling exactly the same, stressed upset scared… i hope you get some good news but wanted to come and say you are not alone x

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    Former Member in reply to Former Member

    Thanks. Feel as if my parents are alone - no availability of nurses atm. Mum in lot of pain. 

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    Former Member in reply to Former Member

    I would absolutely keep calling and making them aware. Keep calling the hospital . Hope your mom gets sorted. 

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    Former Member in reply to Former Member

    Mum managed to get an appointment yesterday after lots and lots of calls. Appointment was with onogologist who advised that if she didn't put on a lot of weight (she's currently only 7 stone) she'd be too weak for chemo. She's finally got pain medication sorted so is comfortable & eating, keeping food down - which is a start.