Don’t know how to think, dealing with another diagnosis

Hi Beckn1n2 and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is both an informative and supportive place to be.

I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community and, although I'm not a member of this group, I noticed that your post hadn't had any replies yet. Responding to you will 'bump' it back to the top of the discussion list again.

While you're waiting for replies, if you feel that you'd like to talk things through with someone, then I can certainly recommend the lovely people on the Macmillan Support Line. They're available on 0808 808 0000 every day of the week from 8am to 8pm.

((hugs))

You just do as what is the alternative? We can be remarkably resilient.  My husband has refused any more immunotherapy and there's no chance of chemo as he is too weak. He's opted for quality of life. Many times I want to scream or cry because caring for him has completely upturned my quality of life. You just plod on. I've had so many offers of help but as we don't know what each day will bring its hard to plan. Im not sure if this is a help or a bit depressing.  But just plod on and enjoy the good bits whenever you can

Hi

My husband was 8 years cancer free this year but in June we were told that the cancer has returned again in the same place ,(throat cancer) that there was no cure but treatable with immunotherapy, without treatment he would have 12 months at best, he is due his 3rd treatment next week and then a scan to see if there is any changes and if there are he can continue treatment for 2 years which gives us hope but if it's not working then treatment will stop and that will be that, 

We live each day as it comes, we have ups and downs and live in hope we will have more time together but it's very hard not to think the worst and living a future without him , he's only 65 so should have years yet, the constant thinking Is draining but we try and be there for each other and pray we have more time 

Jenny 

Hi Beckn1n2. My partner had 4 weeks thinking she was in remission after chemo and surgery before finding out it is now incurable and in her lungs. I agree with Roberto. You just have to take one day at a time. After almost 2 years, it hasn't got any easier watching her struggle through chemo but we still manage to find some joy and happiness in simple things. 

Wishing you both strength.