Stage 4 small cell aggressive lung cancer.1 year life prognosis given.
diagnosed few months ago.
chemo/immunotherapy 3 cycles done but tumour keep growing.
life is collapsing right before my eyes.
feeling extremely lonely and not sure what to do specially as I got no one in this country apart from my other half who now is sick.
dad passed away couple years ago.
all I receive is sympathy from people which I now really don’t like.never liked sympathy cuz it never helped me ,yet made me feel more vulnerable .
Feeling vulnerable in situations like this doesn’t help in my opinion.
if anyone out there feeling the same way,just get in touch.
Thanks .
Hi Sunflower21,
Sorry to hear about how you are feeling. You are so right that sympathy is often not helpful even more so if it pushes more to pity as that can be really unhelpful. One of the positives I find in this forum is generally people just get it, some days life is purely rubbish and I sometimes find it helpful to recognize that but perhaps try to remember some days might be better.
I did a living with less stress course with Maggies that really quite helped me. Some of the tips they gave helped me to consider that worrying about a future I cannot control was actually stopping me appreciating what I actually have in the here and now.
I had the experience the other day of going to a funeral of a friend who was younger than me, one of the things the celebrant said is that grief is the price we pay for love - and of course that is why it hurts.
<<hugs>>
Steve
