My lovely Partner has been diagnosed with Stage 4 pancreatic Cancer; He has changed so much from a caring loving soul to someone who is so aloof and has no emotion; Has anybody else found this ?
Do you think perhaps he is keeping his hurt and anger at the cancer bottled up inside and trying his way in dealing with the worry. I can understand fully your side too especially if devoted to him. Perhaps he needs a good old scream or cry to then deal with it but doesn't know how to.ive heard and know lots of folk act like there's no problem and even the ostrich head in sand thing. I genuinely don't know if it's symptoms of his cancer type but my devotion goes to someone that were acting somewhat dementia like and hoped it was due to calcium overload before they had infusion.alas a miracle didn't occur after. It must be so so hard knowing you have C especially as so many are healthy never sick types before diagnoses. Hope your hanging in there though.wish you all the best.apologies for no punctuation too I am not a great keyboard warrior haha
Hello Shelia, so sorry about your partner's cancer. I care for my mum, who has been to hell and back several times over the past 9 months with septic arthritis, covid and now she's been sucker punched with metastatic breast cancer. She lost her memory after covid, slowly recovered and cognitively she's returned to almost her old self now, but when she is in pain or feeling ill, she changes completely into an angry, miserable and very childlike personality - I noticed this came with her fear of death and when she's feeling well you would never know she had been like that.
When we're confronted with our own mortality we all have very different responses, I suppose. Your partner might be suppressing his emotions while he processes them, and hopefully he will have some positive and happier times as my mum does now. I send my love and very best wishes to you both x
