My dear husband is near the end of his long journey with a stage 4 brain tumour. He would like to be buried in his home country which means, due to current circumstances there, my children and I may not be able to go with him to put him to rest. His brothers will travel with him and his family will be there the other end.
I was wondering if anyone had suggestions of what the children and I can do instead of attending the funeral. We are Muslim but I am not wanting anything too religious- more for us to celebrate and remember him.
Thank you in advance
Hi KoalaJules
so sorry to hear about your husband. My husband also has a stage 4 brain tumour and the funeral conversation is a hard one.
Not sure I can make any great suggestions but what about a visit to somewhere special to you as a family, or a meal at a favourite restaurant.
I feel life should be celebrated and not necessarily mourned. Try to focus on the good times rather than the sad times.
Love n hugs
Wee Me xx
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We scattered my father's ashes in his favourite park. We go there frequently. Is there somewhere like that you could bury a memory capsule or box? Or plant a tree? Or sponsor a bench or tree?
We went for a meal after. On the menu was one of his favourite dishes which my sister and I had. This was a happy coincidence.
Sending love and hugs at this difficult time x
Hi Wreno, sorry for the delay in responding to your suggestions. Sadly my husband passed away during this period. I really like your suggestions though. Thank you for taking the time to pass on your ideas. All the best
so sorry to hear of your loss, KoalaJules. Sending love and light and hugs to you and your family.
Wee Me xx
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