Funeral alternatives

FormerMember
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My dear husband is near the end of his long journey with a stage 4 brain tumour. He would like to be buried in his home country which means, due to current circumstances there, my children and I may not be able to go with him to put him to rest. His brothers will travel with him and his family will be there the other end. 

I was wondering if anyone had suggestions of what the children and I can do instead of attending the funeral. We are Muslim but I am not wanting anything too religious- more for us to celebrate and remember him. 

Thank you in advance 

  • Hi KoalaJules

    so sorry to hear about your husband. My husband also has a stage 4 brain tumour and the funeral conversation is a hard one.

    Not sure I can make any great suggestions but what about a visit to somewhere special to you as a family, or a meal at a favourite restaurant.

    I feel life should be celebrated and not necessarily mourned. Try to focus on the good times rather than the sad times.

    Love n hugs

    Wee Me xx

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Wee Me

    Hello Wee Me, thank you for your reply and great suggestions - I like the restaurant idea. 
    My thoughts and best wishes go out to you and your husband. 
    xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    We scattered my father's ashes in his favourite park. We go there frequently. Is there somewhere like that you could bury a memory capsule or box? Or plant a tree?  Or sponsor a bench or tree? 

    We went for a meal after. On the menu was one of his favourite dishes   which my sister and I  had.  This was a happy coincidence. 

    Sending love and hugs at this difficult time x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Hi Wreno, sorry for the delay in responding to your suggestions. Sadly my husband passed away during this period. I really like your suggestions though. Thank you for taking the time to pass on your ideas. All the best 

  • so sorry to hear of your loss, KoalaJules. Sending love and light and hugs to you and your family. 

    Wee Me xx

    Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm