I have just joined. My Father in law (76ys old) has had a sudden diagnosis of advanced metastatic bowel cancer on 26.09.2020 He had a ileostomy (spelling) and has a stoma bag. He was in hospital until 9.10.2020 them came home on palliative care. Hospital bed, Carers 3x day & community nurses visiting. We were unable to get anyone to night sit as they decided that he was a suspect covid due to him having a cough (he has COPD).
He has been very difficult to handle, he denys any pain but is unsettled, complains of itching, is very rude to his wife, has hallucinations, is struggling with the catheter, the stoma bag is constantly leaking. Mother in law was doing days i was sitting in at nights. Last night he was trying to get out of bed and had his feet over the safety rails (which were up) and swore at me and threatened to hit me when I said he couldn't come out.
Mother in law had a discussion with the community nurses yesterday saying that we were struggling and Father in law agreed to go to a nursing home, he went last night.
I feel that I have failed. He will now die away from is wife and we won't be allowed to visit due to covid restrictions. I really feel like I have let everyone down.
