Hi
I'm new to the forums, needing a safe space to share the load, I suppose.
My dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer again 3 weeks ago. He had it 20 years ago, recovered well except for MRSA.
Me & dad have been caring for mum, she was diagnosed with dementia 6 years ago, she moved into residential care when dad started his tests. She's at end of life now and it's utterly heartbreaking.
Now dad's had his diagnosis, I'm devastated.
He had his CT scan Tuesday and was told his GP would give him the results in 10 days.
Today he got a call to see the consultant on Tuesday.
I've gone straight to this is bad, he's not getting 'bit of surgery and chemo and you'll be grand' this time.
I really don't know how I'm going to cope with all of this. There's just me, my sister died 6 years ago (shortly before mums diagnosis). My husband and kids are brilliant, but it's my mum and dad, so it's all on me.
Life's not fair
Hi CRLL
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
I know how it can seem when things move quicker than we expect how it must be bad news though sometimes of course it can just be the consultant had a cancellation. Given your mum and your sister too I can certainly see how difficult things must be for both you and your dad.
Do post on here whenever as someone is always listening and it can be amazing how typing things out can help us to lose a little of the burden and fell that bit less alone.
<<hugs>>
Steve
