My Mum

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We lost my amazing Dad on the 23rd December of last year to Mesothelioma, watching my huge fit and healthy Dad fade away was horrific and painful and upsetting.

Now after weeks of pain my Mum was told she had fluid on her lungs and a tumour, it’s beyond belief what my poor Mum has gone through this past year I feel so angry for her!

Luckily she moved from Yorkshire to live with us so she’s not alone, she has me and my husband and two young kids. Thursday we find out exactly what we are dealing with but they have told us at a her age chemo is a no no, she wouldn’t want it anyway. She doesn’t talk about how she feels, doesn’t want to talk about what’s coming. She just wants to pretend it’s not happening.

Hoping so much there is something they can offer her, absolutely frightened for what’s to come. It was one thing visiting my Dad and the kids seeing him poorly but for them to be under same roof and watching Nanny weaken I’m so worried how this will affect them.

Not sure what else to say for now Disappointed relieved

  • Hi , I'm sorry to see what your mum and all of you are going through. My mum had cancer when I was 6 and it is difficult for a youngster to grasp what's going on. No-one told me anything, so I had no idea how it would affect her or what I could do to help and I would have liked to know what was going on, but your children have, sadly, already had an introduction to cancer.  I have found this page and this page  (you have to hover now to get the link) which both provide a lot of support and ideas. It's hard for all of you, I hope you find some useful advice in the links, also there's the helpline on 0808 808 0000 which is manned by experts 7 days a week, 8am-8pm.

    Love and hugs, LoobyLou

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