Hi there, I have only previously responded to other posts but feel like writing this now.
My husband stopped his treatment earlier in the year so he could have an op on his stoma. Also, he quite hated the treatment although accepted it because in the CT at the end of 2019 we found all the tumours had shrunk.
He was recovering from the op while our house purchase was going through. I feel bad for doing this at the same time, but he was unhappy at the other house, and this house was for sale and I had enough inheritance money for it.
So we have moved to our house, but just before the move his bowel started discharging whenever he exerts himself, so as a result I am still moving things from the old house, and he is sleeping in our lounge as cannot do the stairs very well.
his brother is coming over to help reassemble our bed and I am hoping he can fit the handrail I bought as well.
And then in all of this he says he’d like a break somewhere and we could just go away for a week. I have mixed memories of other times we’ve been away since his diagnosis, like coming home early.
I am just working out my thoughts...
I think it comes down to, he would always drive to holidays before and now he’s not up to that. So I will have to choose somewhere I can drive to.
Also, having to consider his requirements, we can’t just take off to a random b&b like we used to. He says what he’d like to do as if it’s just like it used to be. It’s up to me to make it work somehow, or tell him why not
Tomorrow (or later today) we’re going back to the old house with his brother. Hopefully get things from the house including his car. I think if we’re not able to do that, we’ll know we can’t go on holiday.
maybe I can just take him to the seaside for a night and that would be enough?
