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Hi and a warm welcome to Carers. I can see you have posted in several forums, so hope I'm not just repeating information. Given your spelling of Mom, I'm assuming you are in America? If so, the support services are very different. If here in the UK it's important to get your mum's GP to refer her to the local hospice for support in the home. Perhaps you could let me know where your mum is as it will make a huge difference to what support I can suggest.

Hugs,

Hi lovely

No, we are from Birmingham. Brummie I'm afraid. Thank you for replying. 

Hi,

Your story is like my story of my mum 2 and a half years ago. Oesophageal cancer often hides and pretends to be other things, until it’s too late.

My Mum was originally from Kidderminster so all her relatives referred to her as my Mom, also my Nan used to say Mom.

in terms of help, I think contact the local hospice charity, they will be able to help with benefits etc.

It is scary to think “hospice” or “terminal”. Our local hospice are now supporting my husband and they got him PIP on a fast track, they completed the form for us and said the right things that we were scared to say. He is incurable but not dying right now, but someone has to say the right words on the form to make it work.

Also Macmilllan have info leaflets about benefits etc.

I am sorry for bringing my husband into this, his situation is not as bad as my Mum’s and your Mom’s. 

It is maybe more useful for me to admit to feeling guilty for not realising how serious it was with my Mum/Mom at first, but I suppose nobody else did either.

It is a nightmare but just keep going. Say whatever you need to say to her.

Lots of love