Feeling alone

FormerMember
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My mum was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer at the beginning of February. I live with her, my dad and my brother. I do everything I can for my mum especially now we’re in this lockdown; I’ve cut down hours at work, even had to change my area of work (as a nurse) to make her less at risk of covid but meaning I’m not around my work friends. My brother tends to just stay in his room all the time and my dad just acts as if there’s nothing going wrong in the world. All my friends are doing their own things and I just feel completely alone in this world. I’m only in my 20s and feel absolutely devastated that I’m going to lose my mum/best friend and when she’s gone I’m going to be utterly lost. I’m spending every day crying but trying to hide it from her and just don’t know where to turn. I don’t really know why I’m looking for here whether it’s support or an outlet I don’t know. 

  • Hi , I'm sorry to hear about your mum's diagnosis. I was my mum's carer during my school years while my siblings did nothing to help so I know the feeling of having nowhere to turn and I understand the fear of the emotional void. I'm sure it's been said before, but what are you doing to look after yourself? The fact that you're 'spending every day crying' suggests you need help for yourself. If you haven't already done it, I'd suggest contacting your GP to get support, whether that's medication or online therapy, and to get onto the carers register (whenever they start again after lockdown). There's also the helpline, 0800 808 0000 which is closed now but should reopen at 8am tomorrow, where you can speak to an expert. Sometimes just knowing someone else has been there helps, but please do call for help on the helpline or your GP. And please let me know how you are in a day or two.

    Love and hugs,

    LoobyLou
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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hello, I'm sorry to hear about your mum. I am also caring for my mum who is very sick at the moment.

    I dont have anyone to help and feel much the same as you do. Its so hard isnt it.

    I think this lockdown is making it harder for us, I know it is for me . I would love to be able to have my children and granddaughter pop in for a visit. That would really cheer my mum up (plus I cant wait for the biggest cuddle off my granddaughter and kids).

    I'm sure you are doing the best you can and I am a bit older than yourself but if I can help in any way dont hesitate to give me a shout. It might help just to have someone to talk to.

    Take care. 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi. I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I can totally understand everything you feeling. My partner was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer almost 2 years ago. Unfortunately his treatment stopped working few weeks ago. I have taken time off work to care for him, but I am just so so scared! I think the best we can do is to enjoy all the good days we still have with them.