Is this the end?

Hi I'm so sorry to hear how poorly your mother-in-law is. it can be very difficult to know how long. But it does sound like she's in her last days; that said sometimes people go much longer than anyone could expect. You're so right, it does seem cruel and my heart goes out to you. Does anything soothe her? A warm or cool flannel over her skin or just a very gentle hug? Please let me know how she is tomorrow.

Love and hugs,

Hi

The weekend has been a blur... mum in law hasn't been able to go to the toilet for 6 days and is struggling to pass water now too.

A paramedic said last night that it may be time for a driver to be considered, but her district nurses disagree as she is still able to swallow.

Her abdomen is very swollen and I dont think she is as comfortable as she should be but our only other option now is hospital as our local hospice is closed because of the virus.

She seems to be at peace with the situation but it's so hard letting go.

Hi I'm so sorry to hear how poorly your mum in law is. It's really tough that the local hospice is unable to help but I do think a call to her GP is in order if you are at all worried. It's good to hear that she is 'at peace' and I can easily understand that you find it hard letting go. I think though, that you will know when it's time to let go and feel the release that comes with that time. I really feel for you, the love you have for your mum in law comes across in your words and it's lovely that she is with those who care so much for her. Be kind to yourself, you're doing everything you can and she must be so grateful for having you there.

Love and hugs,