New esophagus diagnosis

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Hi,

I'm knew to this group, my wonderful husband of 12yrs, has very recently been diagnosed with cancer of the esophagus also in his vertebrae and right rib, he is waiting for an appointment for a one of radiotherapy treatment to help with back pain and numbness in his hand, then he will have chemo, I know I need to be strong for him, but I feel very lost, he has been furloughed from work for now, but I'm working full time as I work in a pharmacy.

I don't know what I can do to help him, he's very well at moment still eating well, but I find it so hard to see further than tomorrow.

LoobyLou49 over 5 years ago

Hi Sal1 and a warm welcome to Carers, although I'm sorry to hear about your husband. Your reaction is perfectly normal; a cancer diagnosis is always a shock, more so when it has spread. I know what you mean when you say that you 'find it so hard to see further than tomorrow', but at the same time it's good not to look too far ahead. It's good to hear that he's feeling well too. Sometimes we feel that we should 'do' something and get caught up in feeling we're not doing enough. My husband said that the best thing I did was just being there for him, that being there helped him get through; I hope this eases your mind a little. If you need to talk, please do call the helpline, on 0808 808 0000. It's open 8am-8pm every day and is manned by experts.

Love and hugs,

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Sal1 over 5 years ago in reply to LoobyLou49

Hi loobylou 49,

Thanks for the reply, it helps a little to know that I'm reacting normally, kind of feels like this all a bad dream and I'm going to wake up any minute, it's our second marriage for both of us, been together 16 years and married 12 years in September, he's my soul mate and best friend, just took me a long time to find him and don't want any thing to cut our time together short.

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