Anyone in their late 20s who is a carer?

Hi there and welcome.im a bit out of the age range but if I can help in any way I will.ive been a carer for my dad and my partner.im sure you will find support here xx

Hi! 

I just spotted your post... I hope you don't mind me replying as I am 33  Caring for my Mum for just over a year now. It's tough trying to balance everything! 

Hope you're okay anyway :) 

Kelly 

Hi

Welcome to the online community and I'm sorry to see you here and to read your story.

It is very difficult for young people like yourself to be put in a position where you have to put your life on hold to care for a loved one and lose some very important parts of your life.

I would ask you to Have a look at this (click on the green text to open up a new page when you are ready) and see if this would help you.

We very rarely get to know other members ages but I am quite sure that we do have many members in the group in your age group that might be able to befriend you.

Can I say a couple of things to you firstly never apologise for coming on here "and going on" this is a very safe place to come to and rant and rave, let off steam (we all do it, we all need to do it at sometime) or just come on and have a chat and we'll try our best to support you even the oldies like myself, secondly you never have to feel nervous about writing here it's your group to come onto at anytime and join in, we are all friends here. 

We do have a group for diagnosed at a young age which might not be the best group for you but on the other hand I am thinking that you might be able to interact with some of the members and find you've got something in common but here's the drawback it's not very active at the moment but it's something we can look into.

I don't know if this would be of any help to you but we have a search  facility here on Macmillans Support down your way where you can enter in your postcode and it will bring up a list of support groups in your area and you might be lucky something maybe available in your area. It also shows places where fun raising functions are being held and you might find one locally to you, I do know that in certain areas they have regular discos run by young people.

There is another charity called Maggies Centre and they have centres dotted around the UK if you again pop you postcode into the search box they may have a suitable group for you.

You might find some information from Carers uk 

Whilst you are seeking out places please do keep in touch with us and I see that some members have already made contact on here and offered friendship I think I've mentioned it already but I do mean it we are a very friendly bunch and no matter our ages we do know what you are feeling and we are all here to help you in anyway we can.

I look forward to hearing how you are getting on.

Ian

Hi life 28,once again I am so sorry you find yourself on this forum. Its especially tough when you should be living your life, having fun. I'm not in your age group, but I just wanted to show support and friendship if you are feeling a bit down. I am pretty sure there are others more your age on this forum, hope you find each other xx

Hi life28, 

I'm also 28! Thank you for reaching  out. I feel very much the same as you, its overwhelming. But you're incredibly brave for what you're doing and please know that youre not alone.

A little background, I am also new here. My mum just got diagnosed with lung cancer stage 4 and we're not sure she's going to be well enough for treatment.

Shes incredibly poorly and going downhill fast. I got married 2 weeks ago and she was too ill to make the wedding, which broke both our hearts as shes my best friend. My dad isn't around so she was supposed to walk me down the aisle. It was a difficult day. 

I've since had to move in with her as she requires full time care now so haven't spent any real time with my new husband, which is also heartbreaking. 

I've been signed off work for a month but have no idea what I'll do after that. I miss my job so much, I love my career and I love my colleagues. 

It's a difficult journey we are on, my friend, but it's an important one. Please feel free to message me if you ever want to talk.

Sending kind thoughts and respect. All thr very best 

Thankyou for your lovely comment.. apologies for the extremely late reply things are not good here atm so not been sure what to do with myself so came back on here to try and see if I can be better at asking for help/support. 
thanks again 

x