Chemo is robbing me of my husband

Hi

I find it best to do things for myself, like spending a lot of time in my garden. It’s just a tiny garden but I always feel more cheerful when I’ve been digging out old stuff and putting in new. Are there things you can do to help your own mood and health? Carers so often suffer from depression so the sooner you do some for yourself the better for your own health. It’s too easy to underestimate the stress we go through.

You could phone your husband’s specialist nurse for advice and it’s important to let your GP know you’re a carer and get onto the carers’ list (it’s easier to get support then). I found that my husband improved when I stopped doing so much for him, but everyone is different and you will find your own way through it all. You’re right, it’s ‘horrible to watch’ which is another reason for doing things for yourself so you can take your mind off it. 

I’m sure you’ll hear from others soon, in the meantime do call the helpline, 0808 808 0000 and chat to one of our experts for extra support and advice.

love and hugs,

Hi LoobyLou49

thank you for replying to my post. It’s really difficult being a carer and I have only just started to ask for help though admittedly it’s all for my husbands benefit rather than my own. I have got myself onto a waiting list for counselling and looked into our local Carers group but haven’t taken steps to contact them yet. I guess I just feel very overwhelmed with the whole situation but so thankful that I have my fabulous dogs & cat to comfort me, humans very quickly lose interest as time goes by but animals are so much more giving.

thank you again and I will take your advice 

hugs in return