Anyone caring and parenting?

Hi Liz, I hope you don’t mind me chipping in even though I’m not in the same situation as you. Our children are all adults now but I just wanted to say I take my hat off to you for enduring the joint challenges of caring and parenting for so long.  My husband was only diagnosed a few weeks ago and I’m already emotionally and physically exhausted without the additional energy needed to parent children! I can only just begin to imagine how hard it is for you and hope you find some others in your situation to chat to soon. In the meantime, know that I think you deserve a medal for keeping everything going for so long and you will be in my thoughts.

Thank you so much for your kind reply. I'm sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis. Those first few weeks are the hardest, when you are dealing with all the shock and uncertainty. I could barely function at that time but it got easier once you get a treatment plan and you adjust to the new lifestyle.

Strangely there have actually been some great times over the past 5 years because we realise how precious life is. But I've also being in survival mode for so long, it is really taking its toll on me and it's quite a lonely place to be.

I really appreciate your message and sending all my best wishes to you and your husband ️ 

Hiya 

I am sorry to hear what you are going through :( 

my husband also has stage 4 cancer, we have a 6 year old and now my mum has been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. It’s incredibly tough and just lately I have been looking for someone to talk to who may have a similar situation. Although it’s an awful place to be, it is nice to be able to support one another at this really shit time :( 

feel free to add/message me if you want a chat xx

Hi liz_h46 

Our son was about 7 when Janice first got ill and it was a while before she got the diagnosis. She never wanted a prognosis and I struggled with that a bit because I was trying to work out how we might manage if she died. It was challenging enough that her first round of chemotherapy caused quite a few admissions to hospital but we were lucky to have a friend who went above and beyond to help support us.

Then of course my health has not always been the best either and with Michael he too has not escaped some need of the NHS.

Still now our son is 21 and Janice's cancer appears to be stable so we have got to the happy state of living with cancer rather than anything else - though not without lots of help from Macmillan and Maggies. 

<<hugs>>

Steve

My husband was diagnosed with leukemia two years ago, and we're also starting to run out of options. We have a four-year-old daughter, and trying to juggle everything with a little one makes it so much harder. My husband is currently in the hospital, and with my daughter's summer holidays, I can't even visit him, which feels unbearable.

​The exhaustion, the fear, the constant demands of working, caregiving, and parenting—it's all taking a huge toll on my physical and mental health. The moments when it all feels like too much are very real, and I'm right there with you. It's an incredibly lonely and difficult path.

​I'm here if you ever want to talk. Feel free to message me.

Hello

My husband also has Stage 4 cancer and we have an 11 year old and a 13 year old. We have also moved back a few months ago from 10 years living abroad. I'm find it very difficult to cope with everything . If you’d like to chat feel free to message me. 

Hi, again not in the same situation. My wife was diagnosed withbstage 4 glioma in November 24. Shes had 3 ops since. Cognitively shes pretty bad at the moment and is going to be in hosptal for a good months. I've got 2 daughters 6 and 12 who have been amazing. Its amazing how you have been so strong for so long gives me hope that I can muster up the strength to keep being the strong one. All the best