Hi all.
My mum is being treated for stage 3c ovarian cancer. She lives with my dad, who works from home, and middle sister, who is a pharmacist. I moved home and have been living there too since mum was diagnosed. Also staying with us is my mum’s eldest sister, whose home is overseas but who has come to be with mum through her illness.
Mum is just coming to the end of her 6th cycle of chemo. We’ve been stuffing her full of healthy organic fruit and veg for the last few months. Plus juices and smoothies and soups and broths. We’re Asian so every evening is curry of some description. This is more expected than usual due to the presence of my elderly aunt.
This evening mum declared she is sick of meat (almost obligatory to have on the table if there are guests in the house, plus we’ve been making both broth occasionally to give mum for strength). I offered pasta but she doesn’t want pasta. She’s gone off fish so I can’t make a fish pie or simple fish and veg. We’ve had issues with her taste buds and delicate stomach so chilli in cooking and citrus or vinegary foods are out.
Add to this that my dad is diabetic and we have a family history of high blood pressure and heart disease and strokes, so we are very careful about salt and sugar and high glycemic index foods...
I’m stumped for ideas of food to make which everyone can eat. Having to make multiple dishes for each palate is a nightmare and I’m not the world’s greatest cook. That would be my mum who is currently partly easily tired and partly on strike. Help?!
Hi , of course,
329 recipes for people with cancer, and this page has a lot of links to questions about diet.
Love and Hugs,
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Hi KanC
I have great sympathies, my mother is 85 and has become particularly difficult to feed. She never fancies anything if you try getting her input, doesn't like the smell of things, or the look of things. Is obviously hungry and then takes a bite, "that tastes off!"
I am not familiar particularly with Asian cooking except that I enjoy almost anything different. I know that you have regional styles and tastes and needing to feed family is obviously very important to you. So I hope you won't mind this link. It has a wide range of small lightly spiced meals that you might be inspired by even if it isn't directly what you would eat.
From my experience with chemo, the energy levels drop so much that eating becomes hard simply due to exhaustion, not just taste buds. So meat could just be too much of an effort. My mum will often like small selection of treats. I had wondered about things like puri/dhal or vegetable patties from leftovers?
Also my husband had Ames shakes, a powdered vitamin enriched shake powder. The plain one could be used as a base for sweet or savoury soups or drinks - so add mango or or your own liquidised stock/broth to flavour? It would reassure you that she was getting the nutrition with even small quantities.
I don't know if any of that helps?
Last thought, most chemo wards have a nutrition advisor, who could get you those shakes quickly and give specialist advice.
Hugs Birdfeeder x
Hi ,
Thanks for this. The hardest part is balancing nutrition for mum with tastes for my aunt and healthy options for the rest of us. I like the idea of leftovers being used in bites. Will try to work that in. Mum’s just coming out of chemo 6 so energy levels are almost back up to normal although she still tired easily. She’s begun to associate nearly everything we had planned for meals with being unwell so she wrinkled her nose and pushes it away, even if I haven’t made it for weeks. We tend to eat a lot of different cuisines in the family - stir fry, Mexican, pasta, etc... unfortunately my aunt is not used to this and she needs curry to feel satisfied. My poor single remaining brain cell is worn out with thinking.
Now I’m hungry. Off to find food. :-)
I'm not Asian, but I have spent some time in the East and learned to cook some of the dishes. I wonder if the Chinese or Japanese cuisines might have something for you? I'm thinking of things like tofu with sweeter sauces, or vegetarian sushi.
Hi TimeEnough, you're responding to a post that's 2 years old and those members are no longer active so it's unlikely you'll get a reply from the original poster.
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