Awake and up all night

Just checking in on my way, hopefully, to sleep.

i hope everyone who’s having a hard and difficult time (for whatever reason) manages to get at least a few restful  

Thanks Rose, you too sweetie. Ghost stories for me now and hopefully some sleep. Night hon xxx

Thanks all 

Having difficult time, it is cancer and getting mixed messages from docs as hubby is in hospital as he can't eat before we got to the cancer team meeting which will be Tuesday 

Feel worried l must have missed some signs to have prevented this or that it was missed as he's been having tests x

Hope you ok x

Morning Dingg.

I'm so sorry my love, and I know how you must be feeling, but hang on in there. Don't blame yourself for something you had no control over, ever. It's happened and you'll both go through a process to set the wheels in motion to find the best cure.

It'll be difficult, but when you visit hubby today, the best thing to do is remain calm and reassure him that you'll know more on Tuesday. Have you told your son yet? Maybe he will be able to support you whilst his dad is in hospital.

Try not to panic, ask questions if you need to at the hospital and gather all the information on offer. Sending you love and hugs as I really do understand xxx

Hi Dingg as Gill has said you mustn’t blame yourself. Your hubby is in the best place at the moment so he gets the nutrition he needs. You will know more when you see the team on Tuesday and you will feel better once you have a plan in place. When I had a big meeting like that I took my son with me and he took notes…it really helped as it can become quite a blurr taking in all the information. Also I know some people take a list of questions with them. Sending you hugs

Linda xxx

Thanks fot that Gill. I have an appointment woth my GP on Friday, he is generally very understanding. I fid chat with maggies and they suggested that I should have started treatment once the positive margins were identified, then when the overlooked node was identified I should again been offered treatment. On both occasions my consultant said we dont do that here?????? Anyway complaint gone in as they didnt respond to my concern. I am now considering legal action but not dure about the moral of sueimg a hospital.

Alan x

Morning Alan.

That's good you've got an appointment with your GP, so do tell him your concerns.

I'm unsure about suing a hospital too, but see how you go with all the legal stuff first. Good luck lad. xxx

Make sure you save energy for yourself. That whole legal procedure can mop up alot of time and energy. Good luck with the appointment. Sending you love and hugs.

Sorry about that just getting the way the page work and this is the first time that I have done this on a page before and the other thing ii am no good with phones that i Wye my wife says i need to though it in the bin but when i started with the page i got carried away it is because i had so much to say because i spock to real people who have had cancer like me which  for me so sorry about that 

No need to apologise Mikey. I think sometimes you just have to let it all out. Everyone here has a good idea what you're going through. Maybe not exactly but the emotions you're feeling. It's hard f men to open up about what they're feeding. We've grown up with - Big boys don't cry. I'm hopeless with my phone as well.b