Awake and up all night

Thank you very much sbird that is kind of you to reply.

My OH had Head and Neck cancer Dingg, with a huge tumour on his larynx. His surgery was a total laryngectomy, alongside many other procedures to rid him of the cancer. The end result, with the removal of his voice box, has left him mute with restricted mobility in his neck and shoulders. His care will be lifelong, but I'm prepared for that and do the best nursing I can. It's changed our lives forever, but though it all sounds quite drastic, I believe we're programmed to deal with whatever life throws at us and crack on. I'm pretty certain your hubby won't need anything that radical, so don't worry about it sweetheart.

Like your respective armed forces fathers, my dad was a WW2 veteran and had lived through the horrors of six years of war. He was very tough, and stoic, and was still joking with us all from his hospital bed just hours before he passed away, also from cancer. I also believe experiences like that can toughen us too, to better prepare us to cope. My dad was an old charmer and flirted with the nurses - he was 94! It's apparently a myth that bromide was put in soldiers' tea, but I reckon my dad could have done with some in his hospital cuppas! xxx

Hello Soc, and a warm welcome to our group.

Aw lovely, sorry to hear about your issues but we're all in this together and always try to help and support each other whenever we can.

Here's a night owl badge  to cheer you up. Sending you hugs xxx

Ok catching up with me q bit now its evening. Got some work to do which l put off most of the day as was at hospital in the morning with hubby. That seems to drain me probably the emotional thing must be the same for most people. 

Get it with panic attacks l used to get them thought I'd escaped them only to find l get adrenaline rushes instead which are really weird but less often. Keep staying positive but l think mine are now so weird due to the slamming menopause thats another flipping forum haha

Wishing you well xxx

Aww thank you Gill. So kind. I feel better already. It is lovely to join such a caring group.

Sorry spell check got me flipping menopause i meant lol x

 Hey Dingg, I waved goodbye to the menopause about 20 years ago! I went through it earlier than some and, apart from the hot sweats, didn't find it too bad. Guess I was lucky xxx

I also had an early menopause - I’d just turned 40 and it was like a switch had been flicked - nothing peri-menopausal at all!.  It was the night sweats that got me in the end…..drenched and exhausted and falling asleep at work zzzzz. Nothing political about my decision….. 

i went through all the herbal remedies…. After a month they stopped working….. so i ended up going on HRT and I’ve now been on it 30 years!

Evening Rose  Sounds like you had all the thrills and frills of the M. I once had a hot flush at the checkout in Tesco's - I felt the heat rising and knew my face had turned beetroot purple. The lass on the till asked if I was ok, but I assured her I was just having an 'episode' and grinned. I'll never know if it caused me to have explosive tantrums, as I've suffered from those my entire life. They seem to be getting worse the older I get! xxx

That brings back the memories…. 

it’s also reminded me of an incident at my local (very) busy hospital.  First appt at the menopause clinic and I went to get directions from the help desk in the middle of the entrance hall.

the middle aged man stared at me, then said, that’s not for you though, you’re too young!  I was mortified and was sure everyone was staring at me…..

I was ridiculously upset by that….. not long after the clinic  became known as the Gynae Endocrine clinic!