Awake and up all night

It was lovely when we arrived at Abbey Wood yesterday.  We walked down to the "village" and went for a drink in the pub.

Today we've been to the Imperial War Museum. It's rained most of the day but apart from walking from the site to the station we've managed to stay dry. 

We had a yummy breakfast in Abbey Café before we got on the train. 

H 

Good news that you've got a date. 

H 

Sorry to hear about your sleep issues. Quite often there is someone here that you can chat with.

H 

Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. Best wishes for your treatment. 

H 

Kezdc16ad said:

My husband and I got some M&S vouchers at Christmas, so we are going to use them and get some nice food to fill the fridge for when I am recovering. 

That sounds great. 

H 

Sounds good I love the Imperial War Museum . My Mum was an ambulance driver in the war and I remember going with her and my 2 boys years ago. Hopefully the weather won’t be as bad tomorrow!

Linda xxx

Struggling tonight. Got the appointment building anxiety thoughts whirling. Had a lovely afternoon with a friend had lunch, went shopping, some retail therapy. Brought the OH some gifts to say thank you for caring and loving me through all this. I also wrote a card to show I understand he is also going thorough this and acknowledged his feelings the best I could. But some how I am now filled with please dont let this end. I finally have many good reasons for life to continue (like us all!!) We have our first grand baby due in 4 weeks. Our son moved back home in last Sept after leaving to go north to live with his gf (obviously didnt work out) after 2 years and we have our eldest now planning a wedding....for 2027....I know we all have these moments. My mum has many health issues which she relies on me to help and support. I landed my dream job then worked for 4 weeks been off since operation (Their support as been amazing) and plan to return second week of March. But now wondering will I cope with ft hours...but i know Occy health will support with changes and being a cancer patient I am covered by the disability act for the rest of my working career. sorry for the long message...I just needed to get it out of my head. 

Evening Jamie and that was from the heart my friend, and lovely of you to share.

You've got a lot of really good reasons to be as strong as you possibly can, but don't overdo or overthink things. Take all the help and advice offered by your team but be kind to yourself too. Hey, I bet your OH was thrilled with the card you gave him. Carers often get overlooked but our job is just as important as the nurses who look after you in hospital - only we have 24/7 nursing and no breaks. If you give him the odd reminder you won't go far wrong.

Aw, great news you're going to be grandparents, and when the baby's a bit older you'll be able to introduce him or her to Elijah and Rebecca - so many things to look forward to. You do that hon, don't look back. Give your mum the support you can manage - I'm sure she'll more than appreciate it, and as for worrying about your job, don't as it will all work out.

Next Tuesday OH and myself have to go to Leeds Dental Hospital - it's a follow-up to make sure the RT he received hasn't caused problems to his jaw, as sometimes happens with head and neck cancer patients. Our appointment's roughly the same time as yours, but I'll be thinking of you and hoping for the best outcome. 

Did you take the sleep med tonight, or holding off for another day or so? If your OH is anything like mine, he'll be sound asleep now, but I'll still be around for ages yet, as I've lost the capacity to drop off at will.

Big hugs Jamie, it'll be Tuesday before you know it xxx

Hello. 

Thank you for your support. Means so much to read what you are thinking and helps me too. The youngest is the baby mother to little spud so the baby is a boy. All the babies in the family get a nickname. My god daughters do to which are little bean and little legs haha its just something I do. 

My OH is struggling and he admitted this evening without me knowing whilst out he is seeking therapy to help him cope. He did so much to hold it together this long and then with the sudden passing of his ex mother in law who had a massive stroke 1 week after my surgery was a big shock. We went on holidays and day trips together. Many dinners and Christmas spent. The last message I sent her was me in a hospital and her reply was thank the lord he is alive then we arrange for her to come and see me on the Monday once home. That was the day her stroke happened and I never got to see her again. I was to poorly for the travel to Derby to visit her in hospital.

My OH did and sent my well wishes to her. We never knew it happend on the Monday but that actual day I had to rushed myself back to hospital and with in 10 mins of being in A and E I was in resus...with a adrenaline storm which is a medical emergency but could not get an ambulance for 6 hours so 72 hrs after discharge back to hospital for me and my OH all the time she was at home and not found till Tuesday slumped in her chair....she was independent and no one would have knew as she just got on with things. 

Anyway, I really hope your OH appt goes well next week and I am sure we shall update on here too. Yes carers do often get over looked and the reason I wanted to show I appreciated it and it was not unoticed. Sorry again for the long message i just need to get these things out my head. I think the trauma of the last 8 weeks is finally catching up with me. xx

I'm pretty sure that's what it is lad, the human spirit can only take so much but guess what - we've got the ability to bounce back! You're beating yourself up over things you had no control over, so my advice is to stop, as things have happened and they can't be changed.

A similar thing happened to my mam re the stroke. Here's what happened to her. At 86 she got breast cancer, had a mastectomy and went on to live well, by herself, for a further eight years. OH and me became her primary carers as we lived the nearest to her. One Monday morning, my sister in Sheffield rang to say she'd called the medics, fearing she'd had a stroke. I quickly got OH out of work and we got into action. Long story short: mam had been alone all night and had suffered a devastating stroke, although she hung on for over three weeks in hospital. She lost the power of speech and never returned home again. The one thing I'm glad about is that she never knew about my OH getting cancer and also losing his voice forever, as she loved him very much and would have been devastated. These things happen every day to thousands of people, but like I said, we can get through them. You will too, and your OH does right to seek help with therapy as it can only do him good. Stay strong together and take every day as it comes. Enjoy what your family brings and if there's negativity, kick it aside. That's my philosophy with one person who's brought nothing positive to our table anyway.

Hey, I hope my rambling might be sending you to the land of nod, and if so, back of the net! Yep, I'll definitely give you an update next Tuesday and hopefully you'll give us one too as we're all in this together. More hugs my friend xxx