My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Afternoon All, Well it's a lovely day here, and i should be getting on with some housework but still shattered after wedding, it was fantastic no cash spared, it was lovely to see Darren's friend it's nine years since they moved from here. the bride was beautiful she had not one wedding dress but two. They had so much going on Marilyn Monroe look alike, A bba tribute band the Box and that was kids dancing, magician, the statues we see when we are on hols that are so still then they give you a big fright when they move. Cham and cupcakes when we arrived at the reception. Don't think i will be at another one so posh unless Darren finds a rich chick. Well we are going to London on Thurs on the train it's going to be a long day but we have to go. Kim starts work again on Tues i think she is dreading leaving Charlie again as she has had nearly eight weeks with him. Will catch up on all the posts later i really must go and do some work. Sending hugs to you all. Fiona xxxxxxx
Dear Lynne
I just want to send you a huge hug ((((((((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))))))))) - so sorry it's late but have just got back on line as I had to go and replace the laptop. Another date done and dusted.
Sue xx
Not really a holiday, lynne - my mother has all sorts of jobs lined up for me! repairing wallpaper, cleaning the back path, gardening...... can't wait to get back home on friday!!!! don't like being in cornwall for all sorts of reasons, and will be counting the hours to getting home again. xx
Hugs all of you, Lynne well done today glad it worked out for you xx Gayle, you'll be fine, go with a positive mind and decide here and now that you aren't going to have any side effects, just don't accept them and they can't happen! xx Patricia hope work is being kinder to you xx Sue lots of hugs for Cornwall, we'll all be there on the ledge and clustered around like a proper little posse dragging you through, look forward to having you back. Helen you ok love, your status on FB makes me wonder xxx Lots of love to everyone else, sorry I haven;t been back any further, not feeling great I have another domestic disaster going on and the "emergency plumber" is worse than useless, the kids I have decided are taking me for granted and never seem to think I have feelings or perhaps never actually wonder about them. Feeling sorry for myself and very down, so prickly that I may have to sit (under an umbrella) at the edge of the huddle and corner of the ledge cos not good company, but love you all and will be back soon xxxxxxxxxxx
Sending you a hug Rosemary before I go to bed. I'm sorry you are having a bad day and the kids are taking you for granted. Thats kids for you! So have a big hug and I don't care if your prickly - I'll wear a padded jacket :-) Thanks for the words too. You are right - positive mind!!! I've been feeling prickly today too for no good reason. Although was supposed to be meeting a viewer for the caravan and they never showed after me having a 3 hour round trip to get there! Typical. Lynne, glad you survived the day and was thinking of you.
Night all as up early for work tomorrow and looking forward to it as I have been working from home all this week and its starting to do my head in (probably why I am in a prickly mood) being stuck in the house. So off tomorrow to work for a couple of days and back Tuesday night.
Love to all
Gayle xxx
Oh, Rosemary
Hope the coming week sees you more able to face the world with some joy in your heart.
sue xx
I have read all your posts and don;lt know what to say sooooooo....... ((((((((((((((((((GROUP HUG)))))))))))))) for you all.
I will come back latern and may have somethong more constructive and helpful but don;t hold your breath. This tired and mushy brain is finding it hard to be anytghing other than useless.
Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x
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