My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Welcome back Judi, sorry you've been unwell. I hope you are fully recovered now.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Hi everyone -- Bit of a damp morning here but mr sun is trying to get his hat on .Had a blip last night. went to put the lights on + bang they all tripped + whether I pressed on the switch a bit hard as I heard the bang but when I reset the trip the switch had given up the ghost + I was left with lights that wouldnt go off! Then I just went to bits v sorry for myself no hubby to turn to though he'd probably have been as useless as me as d i y wasnt his hot subject. Luckily a friend sorted it this morn -- think I'll have to look for a night class doing electrics + plumbing  girls . We'll have to have a meet  Sue as these northeners seem to get all the fun Strangely I went to Cheltenham to meet a macmillan friend on Saturday so I passed your neck of the woods in the train.Hope you feel better Judi + hope you other penguins are ok too. Love + hugs to all xx Lynda

No time to reply properly as spent ages reading the posts and answering the phone but..... "Old Fruit" cockney ryming slang for Fruit Gum = Chum!  xxxxxx

Evenning , all , so glad to have you back Judi and hope your feeling better now . Well they took dad down eventually about 5 ish and bought him back on to the ward about 7 . Becayse he's only had a local they didn't keep him in recovery long . He looks once again like he's done 10 rounds with Ali , but you can see that through the swelling and stiches his mouth has closed up a little . They have actully sent him home which we didn;t want really as he usually has a bad night after these ops . He hasn't had anything to eat or drink since this morning and we are scared of him getting dehydrated again . He was in quite good spirits but he usually is straight after the op , its when the pain kicks in that he goes down hill . My sister is going back round later whilst he has something to drink and takes his tablets . But he dropped a bombshell on us after we'd got him home , he said they havn't finished with him yet aghhh wish they would leave him alone , he has his stiches out in 10 days and then we'll be able to see more of what they have done and if it was succesful .

I spoke to my boss this morning and she wants me to fill  out a incident report , its actully 2 forms Patricia , 1 for the hospital to investigate why we we're given the wrong info again and the other because i was actually hurt . I have struggled today but control have gone easy on me and didn't give me any stretchers to do , hopefully tommorow my back might be a little better and i'll be able to get back to the jogging , or at least walking . Sending hugs to you all thank you for your good wishes and kind thoughts to my dad .

Take care Lynne xxx

Hi All,

Snowed under with work and family at the moment so haven’t had much time to post... but always read every day to see how you all are J xx

Judes sorry to hear that you were feeling so rotten, but glad to hear you are on the mend now. Xx

Lynda your problems with the lights sound like a bit of a nightmare! Glad that you have managed to get it sorted though. Xx

Fiona so sorry to hear your sad news... hugs to you and your family. Xx

Gayle your boys looked so fab in their uniforms this morning! Hope you got through the day ok. Xx

Lynne, I will be thinking of you all and sending positive thoughts for your Dad - and big hugs and much love for you... xx

To all the other lovely penguins, hope that you are all feeling the best that you can! xx

Have to say that I have felt quite calm today – after a very wobbly weekend... Not sure what the difference is but we never do know do we? Had a lovely day with the girls in Manchester, then Sunday and yesterday seemed so very low... One day at a time though eh?

Watching Chicken Little with H just at the moment, laptop on knee, dog asleep on my feet... Hope I don't need a visit to the loo in the near future – tee hee!

Much love to you all, Manda xx

Nice to see you Manda. I hope you continue to feel calm. Strange isn't it how a few good days can be followed by 'wobbles' and then that feeling of calm.  Hope ypou enjopy the film without having to disturb the tableau you described lol.

Lynne, I am amazed that the hospital have let your dad home before he is fully ready. Perhaps for any future ops they could book him as a definite overnight stay. I hope he remains settled and does not have to return to the hospital on this occassion. Is there any reason why he should not be allowed ice chips. Sometimes this is a way of getting small amounts of fluid into someone who is not able or is unwilling to drink. Has he tried using a straw to take fluids or is that to uncomfortable too? Just trying to think of suggestions to help him.  Keep smiling Lynne, you are always so cheerful on the outside but we all know what is going on inside don't we??  I hope your back feels easier tomorrow but if not then you know what you need to do. (I have my bossy head on tonight lol).

Oh Lynda poor you, I have the old fashioned type of fuse box. I have to replace wire when the light etc go off. I hope you have a good supply of candles and if not why not. I have candles all over the place and also things to light them with (the Girl Guide in me lol).

How is everyone else? I hope you are having the best evening you can.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Morning all Thanks Patricia for the advice last night (always welcome) Dad managed to drink a little and take his tablets (via fortucreame) When sis went back she was worried has he had swelled up loads more , which they did tell us to expect ) and she wanted to take him back but he was having none of it , but as he manged a drink and tablets she let him stay at home . I', not sure if he's tried ice chips but he cant use a straw , it just ran back out again , he uses a tea spoon for everything and it has to be thickend first , maybe the op will have made things a little better but not sure if thats what its for . I'll go up in about a hour before work and see how he is doing . I did manage to sleep but my back is ready for pain killers now . I will do as you say Patricia if it doesn't ease any today . xx

 Hope everybody is ok hugs to all

 xxx Lynne xxx

Morning!  Lynne lots of love and thoughts for you and dad always, hope he is better today, although it is now that the pain will be kicking in isn't it?  As for your back shouldn't you take a day or two sick leave, keep doing what you are and moving people about is not going to help.  It would also re-iterate the fact that you have damaged your back regarding your claim (not meaning you need to "set up" evidence just it is then on paper how bad it actually is), but mainly if you give it a rest now it will help in the long run rather than pushing it too much.

Sorry old fruits (!) thought I would have more time this morning but already Sam and Little Sis have been on the phone and now the boys are whingeing big time about going out.  Be back later, love to you all and big hugs xxxxxx

Good morning. Lynne, do take care of yourself. As Rosemary says, you don't want to aggravate that injury.  I hope your dad is not in too much discomfort this morning. x x

Rosemary, you sounds busy, busy, busy. I hope you have a good day.

It was lovely and sunny here first thing but the sun seems to have gone elsewhere now. Oh well, at least it is dry.

Have the best day you can penguins.

p.s. Fiona I hope you and yours are doing ok.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Evening all , just a quick update . Dad is doing ok , the gp came out this afternoon just to check on him (first time for everything ) . He is in some pain but he's doing quite well . His mouth is a massive mess but we do believe that this time it may help him . He's in quite good spirits still , think he's just glad that this part is over . I've taken a photo of his mouth today and if when we meet anyone wants to see it you can (cant see many takers on that one lol ) i only took the photo so in a couple of days we can look at it and see if the swelling is going down (not for sick sadistic purposes ) really . My back is much better and i'm going to attempt a walk in a min , i know , i know , i hear what your saying my friends but idont want to get out of it  . I wont jog tonight i promise and if i feel i'm hurting it i will stop . Thank you all xxxxx