My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Hi Ailsa x

Thanks for your kind words, I have surprised myself how excited I am now about the new job. I look back and feel as if I have been coasting through the last few years (understandably due to other priorities) but now feel all my enthusiasm coming back and see work now as something to throw myself into xx Sounds like you will be soon too x

Well done on the dancing, sound s like fun! Good luck on the next phase of the garage.

Bren well done on sorting Dan s things, I must admit that is a job I still need to do. Sorted a very few of Pauls things earlier this year but most of his things are still here. Still find it so hard, cant do it!!

I have done lots of ironing and cupboard tidying this morning...;lots of out of date tins and packets!! Then this afternoon went shopping!! Bought 2 pairs of jeans, 2 tops, a coat for my trip to the lakes and some jewellery. What was I saying about not spending Lynne lol!!! Hope you got your train tickets booked okx

Watched Liverpool win 2 - 0 tonight, the season starts again this weekend Judi, are you excited?? lol More lessons on football he he

2 more sleeps until we go to London!! Out with my boyfriend tomorrow night before I go away. Think we re going to the cinema

Sleep well everyone

Helen xxx

Hi all

Helen - Season, what season - excited, excited .... EXCITED  er............ NO.  I am so glad that you enjoyed the day at your new job, I think you are right when you just 'know' that it is time to put a few more demands back into that part of your life.  I was the same as you - different priorites for the last few years, but now want to have something that I believe I do well.  So Ailsa, that feeling will come to you too when the time is right ....... although the frustration of not having the responsibility sounds as if it is starting to tell you something!  I am quite excited about your 'round window' I feel I am going back to my Play School days!

Bren, well done you for sorting out some of Dan's things.  Ed was so unmaterialistic he really didn't have much 'stuff'.  At the time I thought I was lucky not to have anything to 'sort out' but it has left me with very little to hold on to.  It sounds VERY hot there at the moment, my two mutts wouldn't like that at all.  And I have to admit that I don't look particularly fetching in humid hot conditions ..... think I am a real penguin in that respect ...... the more clothes and hats and scarves the better. 

Rosemary my lovely one, I so hope that you are managing and that Daniel and Sam are being good to you.  I know that as you read that you will be saying to yourself "But Beckham was Sam's baby, so she needs cosseting too" and you are right, so I am hoping that this is a time where Wayne can prove to you that he understands Sam's needs and is there for her.  (((((((     )))))))))

To my lovely Lynne, for now I have put my blue facepaint away (don't worry guys, she will get the Braveheart reference!) and let the Sassenachs get their broadband act together.  But just you say the word and we will start our March south. 

Much love to all, speak tomorrow.

Judi xxx

Hello my dears

I have been watching and reading for some time.  I have been so reluctant to join, but here I am.  I have known for months that I would find my way here.  

So, will you welcome me in?

With love, 

Grace xxx

Of course we'll welcomme you to our little group . I'm sorry you have had to join us but now you have please keep posting and we will help you all we can . I wouldn't be where i am now without the support of the lovely ladies and gents on here . Sorry its a short one (dam internet) ..

 HA HA Judi , my brad band has been dispatched but i'll probably not be here whn it comes so not sure where they will take the parcel .

 Hugs to all

 xx Lynne xx

AND FINGERS CROSSED THAT THIS POSTS LOL XXXXXXXX

Dear  Grace,

Welcome to the thread. so sorry that you've needed to be here at all, but we're delighted to see you.  We're a very supportive bunch of people wwho listen, rant, rave ven laugh together, but above all we all understand what the others are going through. We're all at different stages of this long  lonely journey; please keep posting and gat the support you need.

rosemary, are you and sam OK?

Sue xx

Hi all -- Still trying to sort u all out --will probably have to go back to the earlier threads. I seem to have been very down lately + despite the antibios the infection is lingering.. I did get myself into the gatden yesterday + do some weeding .Trying to think what to do with the bottom end of the garden -- hubby had big plans for it but I'm no gardener -- have to my shame managed to kill off quite a few plants. The bright spot this week has been the grandsons visit + watching his antics -- got to smile then. Dont know if any of  u girls were feeling so down at the 6 month stage. The doctor suggested cruz but I'm not sure about that. Love + hugs to all lyndaxx

hi, Lynda - yes, the 6-month stage was a big downer; I think most of us felt that way. it seems to be the stage of beng totally overwhelmed by the realisation of what we neeed to do, and that we really do have to sort it for ourselves.  Mine coincided with christmas, but i got through it, and so will you.

hang on in there!

Sue xx

Morning

Yes I remember the 6 month being hard, it coincided with the lead up to Paul`s and my daughter`s birthdays and we also buried his ashes the same month and of course being surrounded with Christmas on its way xx

Grace of course you are welcome. Reading your profile your hubbie`s last few days sounded like mine. Paul was on the move and attending appointments the same day he died xx Such strong, brave men xxx Please keep popping in and posting if you feel up to it.

Rosemary hope you and Sam are getting through together xxx

I ve been busy printing off maps for London tomorrow lol!!! I am very impressed!! I have even printed off a `photo street view` and map....how good is that!!!! Doesnt take much to impress me he he!! Dont tell the boyfriend...oops!! Sorry, bit excited this morning!! Like to know where I m going so we will look very much tourists with maps in hand. Nat will probably disown me and walk 10 feet in front lol!! Just thought I think my sat nav does walk too so can take that, ooh!!

Right off to do more ironing and pack, be back later. Have a good Friday everybody

Helen xxx

Hi all,

I wonder if I can join. My husband died in my arms two days ago. He was only 44. I cant cope with this pain, dont know what to do. i have a 2 and 4 year old that need and keep asking where is daddy. O god why

anj

anj,

So, so sorry to hear your news - you must be devastated.   You are more than welcome to join our thread;  we are all at different stages in our journey of this new thing called 'widowhood', and we have all supported one another all the way.   I personally don't know what I would have done without the wonderful people I have met on this site; they have become good friends. Here is the place to rant and rave, to come for support and - although you won't think so at the moment - we even have some good laughs along the way. Above all, you will find compassion and understanding , so please keeep posting.

sue xx