My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Hi Patricia and Lynne, well it is just beginning to get dark here, and today was HOT so have spent most of it tidying up my bit of the shared garden - with Joey sighing and lying in the sun, then getting too hot and moving to the shade and then getting too cold and moving to the sun, and then .... well you get the picture! While Kat just walks round the preimeter, I think she is looking for mice!
I do hope that the quietness here means that everyone has things to do and people to see, or sunsets to watch. Think I might go and take the hounds for a last walk - hugs to you both xxxx J
Hi Judi and Lynne, I had a busy day tidying and washing and then folding washing. Shopping for food. Making tea, washing up the pots. Sooooo exciting.
Heard today I am to be a greqat aunt again in the new year. Whoop whoop.
Hope you are both well.
Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x
Hi all. I'm here too. As I was trying to catch up on posts more were being added - is that a trick or what?
Patricia that is wonderful news about the new baby - something to look forward to. Did you get to Castleford? I have one more busy weekend on this garage and then I will have plenty of time to meet up with you. I have a wall to take down this weekend and then the next bits are all for various tradesmen to do so I get a break.
Judi there is definately still plenty of time to pack. I so glad your old self is returning. That news gives me hope for me at some point. I am seriously missing the old me but have no idea where to begin to find her. I have taken you & Patricia's advice and I will be keeping my 'safety net' appointment with the counsellor tomorrow. In the meantime, even though I have been busy going to IKEA for yet more storage solutions for my garage this evening, I have been through to the cemetery with some flowers and watched a wonderful sunset while I was there!
Helen - hearing you mention spotting a little of the old you also gives me hope. Paul did a truely wonderful thing for you. Enjoy each day for what it is. How was brunch with your friends?
Lynne I think I am probably with you - I am not ready to move on but I am really trying to get on. It just isn't very clear how I do even that.
Gayle I loved reading about you & Wully's special day. Thank you for sharing it with us. Photos are so special even when they are sometimes hard to look at right now. I was listening to Chris sing on my ipod at the weekend. I try to save that as a special treat.
Sue I hope you had a lovely day in the sun with Rosie. I hope everyone else I haven't mentioned has had a nice time in the sunshine today as well. Take care everyone. Ailsa xx
Hi all just a quick post. I am of to meet a fellow penguin in Canada i will take hugs from everyone
love to all
Teri
Have a great time Teri and give Bren a hug from me xx
Hi All a wee quick post as I am off to meet a fellow penguin in Canada I will take with me lots of hugs
Love to all
Teri
Have a fab time Teri. Just be careful not to hurt yourself any more x x x ((((((special hugs)))))))). May the angel of protection keep you safe on your journey x
ailsa, I didn't bget to Castleford today as I was busy at home but I am going in the morning with my niece.
Have a good evening everyone.
Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x
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