My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Lynne, I am glad you had a good day yesterday. Let's hope todays journey is less eventful. Good morning to you and Gayle.
Sue, I hope you are not feeling too miserable today although perhaps I am being too optimistic on that one.
Anyone dropping by, I hope you have a reasonable day.
Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x
Good morning, dear friends
Thanks to all my penguin mates for the support and hugs. To be honest, after the last 2 years, this really is not the worst thing i've been through - this time last year was far worse.
My main concern is that i won't have any money coming in. Hmmmm. Interesting.
love to all - better shift my butt and get to work, i supppose. Motivation levels nil, but needs must.
sue xx
Oh Sue, they sure know how to kick someone when they're down don't they? This penguin is trying to wrap her flippers around you to give you the biggest hug possible. Failing that, please accept the usual love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x p.s. have the best day you can.
Sue I am joining Patricia in a big hug for you. It is Friday at last.
just when you think it can't get much worse - Ofsted are coming next week. The Head will be away on resdential school camp. Joy of joys.
sue xx
Hi Sue
Just had the tip off, we will be officially told on 9th of June (day after my birthday, thanks!)that both me and my collegue and some admin' staff are all to be made redundant too. They are going to try to redeploy us but I can't say I feel anything at all. I think I would rather taker my redundancy pay and have some time to choose my next move myself. May be able to go on holiday in September after all, cheaper holidays :-)
I suppose it has been hanging over us for for a couple of years, I wil just be pleased when it is all over. Motivation is zero just now! I think Ofsted are in here too next week but I can't bring myself to get worked up over that either, it is my opinion that you are either doing your job or you are not.
Anyway it is a nice day with a lovely weekend forecast and I, for the first time in ages feel happy and I am not going to let anything spoil that! Keep smiling xxxx
Huge squishy hugs from me too Sue and Lesley too - this is going to be a positive thing though, penguins will NOT be brought down by it and we will put all our positive thoughts into getting you both better, happier jobs! As for OFSTED Sue.... AND the head is away???? Hmmm, how good a report would they like....
Evening everyone xxx
Sue.. Ofsted!!! You will eat them alive, you know you do a fab job!! Lesley 9th June is my birthday, might be a good omen!!!
We got told today we are all getting letters over the half term about our salary pay scales. They are bringing everyones scales/ job description into line on a National level and it is basically take your scale as it will be changed to or dont have the job!!! I m just hoping it doesnt mean a big cut. I am thinking of looking closer to home anyway so may be the push I need.
Arent we a happy bunch hee hee but have you noticed it is something else we are worrying about for a change!! Life!! But you like you say is nothing compared to what we ve all been through so as long as we can still eat and keep our roof we ll get through this too xxx
Sue bug higs for this weekend ((((()))))))) You re nearly through this awful week and the sun is shining for us all. Hang in there xxx
Well I am all ready to go out!! Being picked up at 7 pm by a friend and going for a meal and a few drinks. Looking forward to a nice night x
Have a lovely evening everyone
Will catch up tomorrow
Helen xxx
Thanks, H.
must be something about 9th June - it's alice's birthday as well.
xx
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