My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Ah Sue, what next ?? in Helens words keep swimming (((hugs)))) and so glad your feeling more settled Lesley , long may it continue hun xx Well i got back from manchester today and i should have been taking my car for the test , but on a whim (not like me at all ) i went in to the garage which is just round the corner from where i live and instead of having the car tested i came out with a different one . I had been thinking about trading it in and today seemed as good as time as any . The sales man worked a deal out for me , but i made him go back to his boss and ask for more money for mine , he came back with another deal and said "if you shake hands with me now , i'll have the car , valleted and ready for you on monday" i said " i'll shake your hand if you get me the car ready for today " ..... he said " 4 15 be ok "  so i shook his hand lol . I have my shiney new (not brand new) car and i love it , its smaller than the 1 i had so i'm hoping its more economical .I did feel bad when i left my car as we bought it together in april last year but it was too big just for me .. Got to pack for york now , i think i might have a early night ... Take care my penguins xxxx

Evening to the 'penguin posse'..........methinks that we need to huddle around Sue and Lesley and cosset them for a while.  Flippers at the ready to catch you before you fall too far.........

Ah Lynne - next time I want someone to bargain for me I'll send for you.  Bet that poor salesman didn't know what he'd let himsrlf in for????  You sure drive a hard bargain!!!!  Enjoy your trip to York.........

To everyone else (sorry brain cell full of plaster and dust so can't remember anything) I send lots of love and many comforting (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))) - whether you need them or not!!!!

Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hey go you Lynne!  Good girl, bet you'd never have thought you could do that lol!  And would you believe I've just sold the Polo?  Didn't get any more for it than the dealer was going to give Sam in the first place but on principal I didn't want them to have it as they would have sold it on for a huge mark up I'm sure.  As it is I think the man was genuine that he was buying it for his daughter - after all how many dealers would bother to come all the way from Lincolnshire to West Sussex just for a 1.4 Polo? 

I will keep my fingers crossed for all jobs and pay restructuring, but as has been said sometimes these changes are for the best and we are pushed into them for a reason - a new door opening with more and better opportunities, whether we like it or not eh?  Wish I could make it easier for you all, but then life would just find something else for us to work at wouldn;t it? 

Right I think I shall join Lynne in an early night, been busy cleaning bathrooms today (sounds simple but a bit more involved than a quick wipe round this time), then Geordie rolled in fox poo, dirty disgusting revolting dog that he is, so it was daub him with tomato ketchup (neutralises the smell would you believe) and luckily it was warm enough to be able to give him a bath in the garden - yuk, yuk, yuk! Then the man was coming for the car so got a bit nervous and now I am exhausted.  So love and hugs to you all, anyone for a quiet nightcap on the ledge as the light fades?  xxxxxxxx

Hi Dottee!  We were posting at the same time, big hugs to you oh dusty plaster ridden one xxxxxx

Thanks Ladies , i hate having anything to do with cars , mot and everything so to go and buy 1 all by my self is a big thing for me and i am usually useless with negotiating but its amazing what you can do when you've got to rely on yourself . I'm not saying i got the best deal in the world but i was happy with it in the end and i  am pleased that i can actually reach the top of this one to wash it lol . Glad you sold your Rosemary , i am dreading seeing my old 1 go up on sale as i know they will make a profit but thats there aim si i'll drive past the garage with my eyes shut lol .. I'll join you on the ledge please . I have the baileys xxxxxx

Hi Lynne and everyone else of course!

Thanks for your text today, I am feeling much better, the bad days are not so many and not so bad. Hope it stays that way too.

How was it in Manchester? Did Manda manage to meet up with you too? I really wish I could have got to see you all but I just wouldn't have been out of work in time.

Glad you have got a new car, you are so impulsive!

Hope everyone else is doing OK, have not really managed to keep up with everyone's posts, just seen the odd one but I do think of you all.

xxx Lesley xxx

oooooooooooo - Lynne - please don't drive with your eyes shut - or you'll go BANG....CRASH....WALLOP....

Rosemary - thanks for the hugs....sending (((hugs))) back to you...........I'm just glad it's not raining - I'm now so covered in dust i think I would set solid!!!  Does anyone have room for an over-sized garden gnome?????  No trouble...won't need feeding........

Love and ((((hugs)))))

Dot xxxxxxx

Hi Lesley , yes we met up with Manda just before we went in , her daughter is so so sweet bless . I dont want to say to much about JE as the others are going and i dont want to spoil it . It was lovely to go shopping with Gayle (oh boy and can she shop ) and it was lovely to spend time with her again . We need more meets lol xxxxx

I have a place for you right by the gazebo Dottee, that way if it rains you can duck in for cover, good view of the ledge from there and some nice flowers and shrubs to complement you xxxxxx 

Me crash bang wallop ha ha  ... Dottee you.ve got the wrong idea about me lol xxxxx