My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Yes, go on gayle - find a space and have a full-on screaming tantrum; shout the c**p out of your system. Really hope hat you manage to stop the slide before too long.

dave, lovely to hear from you - I think we all understand the 'waiting bit - it's just a case of none of us knowing what we're waiting for.

ailsa - is 'white van man ' someone that the penguin posse should sort out?   napoleon is ready and willing...........

  He has adopted a disguise so as to be incognito........

I've had a love ly time with my sister and her partner this weekend - just chilling, going out for a meal, introducing her partner H to the rest of the family. Bless him, he brought his wellies and old clothes with him , and cut the front and back grass - great guy.

not looking forward to this coming week at all - meeting with the union rep tomorrow, visit to the hospital for a consultant's appointment on Tuesday, d-day for redundancy announcement on Thursday, then 1 year anniversray on saturday  - is there room in the middle for napoleon and his human?

love to all

sue xx

Ah Sue and Gayle , please step into the middle , cant beleive you've got all this in 1 week Sue , we're all rooting for you . Gayle (((((hugs ))))))) a proper 1 on thurs hun . Yes i know the waiting waiting waiting , and i'm not very patient either big hugs and love to all that need them , just a quick post the kids still here but i just wanted to offer support to those that needed it xxxxxxxxx

Sue and Napoleon you are very welcome to snuggle into the middle of the huddle. I see a gap for you to walk through..  There, isn't that better.   So sorry you have such a tough week ahead. You will not have time to think. I am sending you extra special angel hugs and love and support to sustain you.

How lovely that your sister's partner came ready to help in the garden.

Have a fun afternoon Lynne,

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Sue sending you big hugs, what a week ahead for you xxxx Just a day at a time and we re all here xxx You too Gayle, like the others have said why not go and have a scream!!!! The build up to the year is so hard but hopefully you will feel more settled after as I do xx

Dave so glad the boys are happy and settled. I can understand the waiting too, not sure what will happen but something always doesx

Ailsa what a cheek!! Some people are so hard faced, no guilt. Not a lot we can do, they have to live with themselves.

Patricia your cake sounds fab, hope your toe is ok though.

Bren your group sounds great, and what a great idea to plan something on those difficult nights.

.As a lot of you will have seen on facebook we have hit the £3000. Cheques and cash have kept coming in and we were £96.80 short of the 3 grand. My friend`s hubbie`s business have donated the last amount. It really touched me and the tears flowed but `good` tears of gratefulness and joy at the support for Paul`s memory and cause xxx Unbelievable!!!

Hugs to everyone, few of us need them at the moment

Helen xxx

Hi everyone.  I've had a lovely trip out to Scarborough today.  Stu bought the car and drove it back but first we parked up on the front and had lunch and a walk round for a couple of hours.  It was a nice way to force me away from the garage project.

Patricia the cake for your sisters 50th sounds terrific.  I would most definately have spoiled any attempt to do something similar by overdoing it so i agree with Ray.  I hope you found something to do with your day.  If not I may have to get you round to mine for a weekend as I have the opposite problem.  Loads to do, energy to a point and enthusiasm with a good big bit of emotion thrown in for good measure.  There are nowhere near enough hours in the day for me to get everything done.  Judi said Gayle was going to sort out a 36 hour day!!

Bren well done shopping for 4 pairs of sandals in one go.  I hope you have a great time in Ottawa next week.

Manda, Lynne are you in York in the daytime or the evening next Saturday?

Gayle I hope you are okay.  I know the feeling of wanting to stamp my feet and throw a strop like a toddler to try to make things different.  If there is somewhere you can go to do it I would.  Take care of yourself as there are too many 'this time last year' thoughts around for you and for Sue right now.  I couldn't avoid the thoughts but got very tired because of it so try to take it easy and don't be too hard on yourself.  You've got Thursday to look forward to for this week at least.

Dave it is lovely to hear from you and great that the boys are doing so well.  I have no wise advice for the 'what now then' feeling.  I have felt it but I didn't come up with any answers.  I tried to put the thought out of my head and throw myself into a project instead but that won't suit for everyone.  Take care.

Sue you have a very hard week ahead of you.  I had redundancy meetings in the week before and after Chris died.  The main thing I remember from that time is I really needed to take a friend into the meetings with me.  Will you be able to do that?  It is really helpful to have someone who was there to discuss the options after your meeting.  I'm glad you have had a nice weekend with your sister - how lovely of her partner to mow your lawns.  I would really appreciate Napoleon 'getting' white van man for me.  I will just have to more careful and less trusting won't I?

Well I am going to go and do a bit more in the garage as Stu & Suzanne are going to come and do a bit tomorrow.  Have a good evening everyone.  Ailsa xxx

Helen that is fantastic news that you hit the £3000.  Well done to you all including the lovely person who completed the target for you xxxx

THE DONKEY 


One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.



He invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quieted down.

A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.


As the farmer's neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the
animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon,
everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of
the well and happily trotted off!

Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to
getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of
our troubles is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.





Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from hatred - Forgive.

2. Free your mind from worries - Most never happen.

3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.

4. Give more.

5. Expect less

NOW --------

Enough of that crap . . .

The donkey later came back, and bit the shit out of the farmer who had
tried to bury him. The gash from the bite got infected, and the farmer
eventually died in agony from septic shock.

MORAL FROM TODAY'S LESSON:

When you do something wrong, and try to cover your ass, it always comes back to bite you.




You have two choices...smile and close this page, or pass this along to someone else to spread the fun. I know what I did!!

Watch your asses girls!!!!

Ha ha, love it!!!! So true xxxxx

Love it Sue , you never let me down lol xxxx