My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Lynne, I hope today is a better day for you. I hope I didn't jinx you yesterday. Good luck with the meeting tonight. It sounds interesting. I wish I was coming with you. Tell us all about it later.

Sending loving hugs and support to you all. Be kind to yourselves.

Dottee I hope you are feeling better today.

Bren, have the best day you can. I can't remember what the time difference is between us. 

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Going to give in and go back to the Drs today as I am still not coping, I have lost my voice I have cold sores and I am sure it is all stress related. The Situation with Joni and Tabitha is not getting any better I was supposed to get to see the baby yesterday but she would not answer her phone to any of us later in the afternoon she sent a text to Claire to say that she was not  well and could we not come. It appears that grandparents have no legal rights to see their grandchildren. Joni is even having problems seeing him and he is his dad. It has been 6 weeks since Bert died and it feels like forever

Teri

Dear Teri, so sorry that you are feeling so unwell and also that you are having problems getting to see your grandchild. Is it possible that the mother has postnatal depression?? It is just a thought.

Time has a habit of fooling us when we are in a stressful situation. It is a very difficult time for you after losing Bert and to have this added stress on top has to be very difficult for both you and your son.

Take care of yourself Teri and make sure to get yourself sorted before it takeshold of you. It is very easy to ignore our own health needs in times of stress. I know this only too well.

Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x

Thank you for the kind thoughts.  I do wish I was closer but you are all welcome here at any time!  It is going to be a beautiful day here in Cambridge, very warm and sunny and then get cold tomorrow, I have taken the dog for his walk, took him to the park which he loves and let him run a bit, he was good and didn't run off on me, always a positivie.  I am off to work soon, think I am also tired of my job, it is the same old thing all the time only getting busier and busier as we are one of the few growing schools in this area.  Only about 10 more weeks and we are off for the summer which will be busy at least in July, I will be gone most of July 

I have to force myself to get moving and get out and be a bit more sociable.  I do have friends that are just waiting for me to call but I don't want to so will try harder to do that and get out more.  Patricia we are 5 hours behind you so it is 7:15 am here, must be just after noon there. 

In my digging up junk last night I found our wedding cake (the piece that I kept in a tin) and the top which I will put in a special place, almost 29 years old.  I found some cards that Danny's sister had given him when they were younger, I might give them to her.  Lots more stuff to sort through, I brought a lot of my dad's tools home and have to go through Dan's too.  I don't want to keep a lot of tools that I don't know how to use so will ask his brother if he wants any when he comes here.    I will eventually make this my house but it is so hard to let go, even a little at a time. 

Teri, special hugs for you

Bren

Evening everyone

Bren like already said shame we re not all closer but who knows one day xx

Lynne hope you ve had a better day and cant wait to hear about the spiritualist church and of course your valuer. When Gayle gets back we can all book somewhere to stay for your weekend then we know we re sorted.

Teri hope you get to the Drs and are feeling better soon. Sure it is all the stress and upset.

Patricia are you back at work yet?

How is everyone else? You ve all been very quiet this week, hope you re all ok xx Nearly the weekend!!

I had in laws round Tuesday and friends last night which was nice. Liam and Nat seem more settled too so I feel much better today and slept well last night. Looking forward to the weekend and a lie in!!

Love to all

Helen xxx

Evening all , big hugs to Teri and Bren , so sorry your having a bad time at the moment and hopfully it passes soon so you can get your all your strength back (((hugs))))

 The mediums at the church we're fasanating (?) one drew on a screen which was projected on to a big screen and talked about the person he was drawing untill some one "claimed " them , and the other one then took over and carried on with the messages , if one thought that the other hadn't quite got things right they would say so and usually they would be spot on with what they we're saying , they we're so "tuned in " together , to tell you the truth i wasn't always aware of what was being said , i was just watching the drawing take place . Afterwards the people involved we're given their pictures . I didn't get anything and i was dissapointed , but i think i'm going to phone the lady up i saw before as at least its a one to one .. It was still really good watching them work .

 The valuer came, and to tell you the truth i think she's under valued (i would say that wouldn't i  lol ) but i know the prices have come down a lot . She then gave me options on how they could market it . Option 1 and pay this that an the other but only pay 1% commision or pay the other and this and that and pay 1.5% commision , so hard to decide these things yourself . She's going to call me tommorow and then they have to come out again and sort the HIP out , and then come and take photos before it can go on the market , so i'm a bit deflated but hey ho , soon be the weekend as Helen said (thanks for the text ) .

 As for my day at work the less said the better really , i am struggling with the lad but he said today he's had a lovely week with me and all i want to do is put a gag round his mouth lol . He just puts his foot in it so many times . My boss told me today how  well i was doin with him but i said i'm sure i've aged 10 years this week lol . Oh well last day tommorow with him ..

 Anyway love to all , it is quiet on here this week

 Take care

 Lynne xxxx

Dear Lynne - lots of (((((((hugs))))))))) for you - to comfort you for not getting a picture, disappointing valuation and most of all to cope with your young (as in baby????) colleague............

Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Evening All, Yipee i am back, Kim managed to sort my laptop seems to be working ok tonight. Hope everyone is doing ok, i have not had time to read all the posts yet just thought i would post. Lynne sorry to hear you think your house has been under valued. Hope your dad ok is it tomorrow he gets his stitches out? Sending big hugs to Bren and Terri, you are having a bad time Terri as if you have not enough to cope with without your son's girlfriend making things hard for you to see your grandson. I have been looking after Charlie today while Kim catches up with school work, we had him away getting his photo taking today at a studio, he was a wee gem i really enjoy looking after him. It has been another lovely day here mind you the sun was late coming out. I have missed so much not being able to post i managed to read the posts on my ipod but for the life of me i couldn't reply to them another question to ask Kim what i am doing wrong. I am so looking forward to our next meet in July. Well i better go and get my coffee and get off to bed as working in the morning, Luv and Hugs to everyone. Fiona the returning penguin xxxxxxxxxx  

Welcome back Fiona..............a (((((((((((((hug))))))))))))) for you xxxxxxxx

Morning all YIPPEEEE last day in the nursery , hats off to Sue and Helen for working with the little one's , but i feel sure the litte 1's will behave better than this 22 year old trapped in a 12 year olds body , i cant even let off steam on face book about him as he begged me to make him his friend . Any way welcomme back Fiona and i hope Gayle doesn't have any trouble getting home after all the airport closures . Thanks Dottee i'm fine , the valuation probably reflects the way the host prices have gone down and if it is under valued then there should be a lot of interest . Have a good day everyone ..

I'll sign in tonight .... 8 hours , i just keep saying 8 hours ..

 Take care Lynne xxxx