My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Evening, morning everyone
I have been round to a friends house and I know you wont believe this but had to leave as she was way too far over the limit for me!! I cant take the pace!!! I am now quite cosy in bed with the lappy xx
Yes I am off for 2 weeks!!!! Not really looking forward to Easter weekend, doing too much of this time last year!! and that is not like me but my lovely Paul was still here then and it hurts to think but unfortunately doesnt bring him back to me xxx
But onwards and upwards and just keep swimming!!! got lots planned and looking forward to it all. First thing is spa day on Sunday with friends, bit of pampering xx Lazy day tomorrow, hopefully lie in then bit of spring cleaning, even thinking of clearing Paul`s wardrobe but will see how I get on.
Wish I could make John Edwards but dont think thats a possibility, 12 th Sept is our wedding anniversary,would have been ideal. Hopefully the next meet
Night all
Helen xx
Afternoon everyone.
Lynne I don't think you need to apologise at all .... I think it was me that messed everything up by confusing who could go where and when - I certainly managed to confuse Gayle with my texts this morning ... oops, sorry hun!! All I know is that I can go to the one on Sunday in Glasgow - I have looked and it is at 2pm. I went via the official John Edwards site and there were still tickets available.
Lynne, I am vrey glad that you went to have a look at the caravans - see, we said that you would know straight away if it was right for you, and you did. I think that once you have made a decision then it is easier to 'go with it' - don't you.
Beautiful sunny day here - and Lynne you are right - I don't believe that Helen has had so much as a duster in her hand today!. I am off to a friend's for supper, she is just at the top of the road which is great for staggering walking home at the end of the evening! Fiona, hope you had a good day at work hun. I was also thinking about Patricia at the wedding - and then I discovered that I don't have her mobile number! ..... how has that happened?? So if you do text Lynne could you send my love - thanks. xx
Will be back later to see how everyone is, love JudiXX
Have a good night Lynne and Judi xxx
I have managed to do front room, skirting boards washed, furniture pulled out and even under the cushions has been hoovered!! But thats where it all ended and like Lynne said I ve been on facebook for the rest of the afternoon lol x
Quiet night in here, Liam and Nat are out and I m beginning to get bit fed up but not giving in, I AM staying in tonight and will be all fresh for my spa day with friends tomorrow. Cant wait!!
Dont forget clocks go forward tonight too, an hour less sleep!! but lighter nights at last!!
Be back later I m sure!!
Helen xxx
Quiet here too Helen, Daniel is working and Sam has gone out for pizza with Wayne (who is staying tonight) so I am getting used to being on my own more now. Actually tonight Dave the cat has decided that I need looking after so has been on my lap once (which is unusual for him) and is now curled up and purring beside me on the couch. Well done on all your work today, you deserve a break tonight.
Lynne, glad you enjoyed your reading, it was interesting to see how they came out. Just trust now and the right place will come up for your, as Judi says you have to look around and you will know when it's right. The mobile homes (static caravans) are beautiful but most sights now seem to be for over 55's and by the sound of it "not our sort of people" by the time we're that age we'll be wearing purple hats and still enoying life!
Judi (and Lynne) have a good evening, relax and enjoy yourself.... and whatever it was I was going to say... have a hug from me.
Anyone heard from Dave recently? I know men don't natter as much as us women and he is really busy with the boys, but I hope he is ok.
Patricia hope the wedding went well today and all is still going well with all the other celebrations, how was the cake? Thinking of you lots and sending very special angel hugs to you.
Ailsa, Lesley, Manda, Julie, Bren, Fiona, Gayle and everyone waving at you and sending you love xxxxx
Hi all i am still around.
Its been abusy couple of weeks for me.What with birthday , mothers day etc.
Fred hasnt been 100%,just miserable really,and has had to miss nursary acouple of times.
Anyway im off to Saints at wembley tomorrow"Rosemary will appreciate that".And i cant wait as ive never been to new wembley.
So i will prob be out of action for acouple of days lol.
Look after yourselves everyone Dave xxx
Yay! There you are Dave, thought you were probably busy, hope the little one is feeling better soon bless him. Have a great day at Wembley tomorrow, cheer the Saints for me! xxxxxx
Evening all - hope you've all had a lovely sunny day as we have?? Trouble is I felt shattered this afternoon so snoozed in my chair instead of out in the garden battling weeds and overgrown shrubs!!!!! Don't forget girls to slap on the factor 30 when out in your gardens!!!!!!!
Rosemary - hope The Day has been as good as you hoped - if a little teary at times. But then tears are 'the done thing' at weddings aren't they???
Oh bother - I forgot who's doing what now - but seem to remember that a couple of you are meeting friends tonight? I hope you all have a good time...............And Dave off to Wembley tomorrow - I'm not a football fan but hope you enjoy your 'me time'...........
Sorry retired brain cell refuses to function so will leave love and (((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))) for all
Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxx
PS - Marvin sends his best wishes too - especially to Napoleon. I'm still searching for a penguin...........He will be named 'Percy' (or 'Perry' if he's a bird with attitude!) xxxxxx
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