My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Patricia, as they used to say on the Darling Buds of May ......... "perfick, just perfick". Gayle I have a horrible feeling you are far too young to know this one!!!
I loved that programme. It was so sweet and innocent x x
Well my darlings, my merry hounds are now whimpering to go out for their final walk ....... either that or they have also decided to sing along with Barry!! lol
So I will bid you goodnight and look forward to speaking soon. PS. The 'virtual' fridge has another bottle for another night, and the chocolate machine can be fired up at a moments notice .... we could move onto Billy Joel if that would suit better.
Love to all - Judi xxxx
good nght God bless may the angels keep you from harm x x x
Morning
Ha ha, sounds like you had fun last night. I too had a bottle of Rose open but missed your party. Judy laughed at your penguin march description, as if I d get distracted by the cider lol. Good luck on Monday xx
Dave glad yesterday went ok xx and Gayle glad you did Wully s ashes too.
Ailsa I m pleased you enjoyed your night out, lets hope it is the first of many you will enjoy x
Manda hope you had a good night x Lynne how was your night?
Fiona, Patrica, Lesley, Esme and everyone else hope you re ok too xxx
I went to my mum and dads grave yesterday after work, it was my mum`s bday yesterday too so took her some flowers. Stood and had a few tears which I havent done for a while there but so many emotions last week, the girl I work with got the phone call on Thursday to be with her mum she is terminal with lung cancer and the end is looming.I have done a lot of re living moments of Paul and also my mum and dad tbh this week and think it hit me when I took the flowers last night
Anyway had a few drinks last night to toast everyone (well that was my excuse anyway lol x) but had everyone in my thoughts.
Have a good weekend everyone, I m off to hairdressers shortly then a bit of shopping and meeting up with my friend for tea and probably end up in our local as there`s a Beatles tribute band on x
Helen xxx
Oh Helen, now I know why you have been in my thoughts so much this week You have been in need of some tlc but kept it quiet (or did I mis it?) Anyway, please accept these gentle and warming ((((((((angel hugs))))))). You know that the angels are surrounding us at all times and trying to keep us safe. We do not always realise they are there and working so hard but they are. It is a very difficult year for you and on top of that hearing more deeply tragic news from your friend must be heartbreking. We had a very difficult year in 2009. Ray died, then a friend's father died suddenly, then another friend's mother died after her srei caught fire at a bonfire, then a young family friend who has had many miscarriages gaver birth to a little girl with massive heart deffects and the baby died. It just seemed to go on and on. It does not help you to deal with your own grief when people you know are joining you in grieving for their ill or deceased loved ones.
Take care of yourself dear Helen. Why not shuffle into the centre of the penguin huddle if only until you go out for the evening. You will feel safe and warm and cossetted.
Love and angel hugs x x x Patricia x x x
hello all
i hope everyone is ok today.... no thick heads ladies after your party last night,lol. i did post yesterday but it said admin error, again and did not appear, it took so long totype and i could not face starting again.
dave, glad all went well, i thought of you as it rained all day here too.
judi, great news about the interview, i am sending good luck thoughts your way.
patricia, i hope you don't mind my asking but how are you so convinced about angels? have you or someone close had an experience, i would love to hear about it if you have, such a comfort to believe in something xx
gayle hope your car is ok, sometimes it seems that it is just one thing after another.
i went to the hairdressers this morning and while reading a mag' saw an ad for a website selling baggy penguin jumpers, they looked really nice on the models so i am going to take a look!
bought a small case for our special weekend, any excuse to go shopping, well all my other cases are way too big!
love and hugs to all, thanks goodness for all my mcmillan friends, dont know how i would cope without you. xxxxxx
https://www.missguided.co.uk/advanced_search_result.php?keywords=penguin
lol, might have to get one to wear in the house when i feel blue! xx
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