My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Oh Manda, so glad you managed to track down the chest you wanted. Is the dog the same white one as is in your fb pictures?  a German shepherd?

I hav done nothing about decorating yet - alice and her friend will do it next weekend. alan never did anything towards Christmas  so doing it all myself is nothing new! h e evn got the girls to buy a present for me, and to wrap it as well - bah  humbug indeed!

Yes that's him - he was Miles' shadow. We lost him last June - also to pancreatic cancer, it's quite common in GSD's I believe...

The box was of special significance to us as Miles was a supporter of environmental conservation, especially the protection of the rain forests (as am I ) - hence the 'Tree of Life' design. I think it was probably just an idea that he had to be laid in the same style of box, but once he had put the idea there I wasn't settling until I found one for him! It just looks and 'feels' right somehow... xx

Glad you found just the right box Manda.  And good for you to get out the decorations.  I have been having a poor me day and now my 16 1/2 year old cat just died in my arms.  He was ill and had been to the vet yesterday, put on antibiotics and this is the way I wanted it, as I didn't want to put him down but it is really hard so soon after losing Danny.  Still have another dog and diabetic old cat so am not totally alone but I am having a good cry right now.  And now don't know what to do with poor Scoot.  The vet doesn't open until Monday.  Just not a good day at all.

Morning girls - just stopping by to leave lots of love and ((((((((((((((bug higs)))))))))))))))) for you all...........in fact I wish we were all in the same room for a big group ((((((((((((hug)))))))))))) - I feel that you're all in need of comfort right now.............Hope this helps..................

More ((((((((((((((((bug higs)))))))))))))))) Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Bren26

I don't know whether you will read this before monday but it's worth a try, as I know from experience how upset you must be right now.

Ring your vets number, if there is no one there, then there should be a recorded  message with an emergency number, ring that, and they should be able to advise you on what to do with your cat.  We have a very nice man that will collect your pet from your home, you may have something similar in your area.

Some people will say...it's only a pet...but it's still something you've loved and it still breaks your heart when they're gone.

Losing a pet so soon after a loved one, is one pain too many...I know, as it happened to me too...I felt I had to try and help you if I could.

Take care

dear bren

So sorry to hear that you have lost your your dear cat. They are certainly not 'just animals', they are our comfort and a huge part of our lives. I have 2 dogs and 2 kittens - my elder dog is 12, and i dread the day that she goes. Labradors normally have a lifespan of around 9 years so she's on borrowed time, but she was very much Alan's dog, and is a real link to him.

These things always seem to occur at weekends and on the run up to christmas; as if things weren't difficult enough anyway!

sue xx

Bren so sorry to hear about your dear cat, sometimes the sadness doesn't let up does it?  Good idea to phone the vet, had you thought about what you would like to do?  Bury him or ask the vet to organise cremation?  Either way for now you could find a box, wrap her in a towel or old blanket and pop him in safe.  Have the other animals been close so that they can understand that he is gone?  It does help them a lot as they can often pine when they don't know what has happened, but death is something that they are able to accept. 

Manda, really pleased you have tracked down your chest for Miles and he is now tucked up with his dog, it puts a piece into the puzzle of healing doesn't it, you know it''s what he would have wanted and you have done your utmost to get it right.  Well done on the loft, I think if I went up there they would have to get the fire brigade to get me down!  Another one for a proper loft ladder here I think.

Dot you are an amazing lady huge higs to you and Alan too, xxxxx

Sorry my loves but having read all your posts without my faithful notebook and pen I can't remember all I wanted to say, so love and hig bugs to you all for this dreary Sunday.  I will try and come back later, off to do wrapping up now and horses later. xxxxxx

Hello everyone.  Bren I am so sorry to hear about your cat.  Nothing I can say will lift your sadness but lots of ((((((hugs)))))).

Manda I am so glad to hear that you found just the right box for Miles.  It is so nice to hear he is with his dog as well.  I know it feels good to know you have done right by Miles and been able to just what he wanted.  I have been lucky enough to finish a few tributes I had planned for Chris recently - it feels so incredibly sad but complete doesn't it.  Please be careful going into your loft on just a stepladder.

Well done Sue raising the money and collecting the DVDs for the chemo ward.

Esme and everyone else, I hope you are all doing okay today.  I am busy trying to complete my Christmas decorations and a bit of cleaning.  I still haven't done my cards either but hope to do them one evening next week.  I should also be able to get a bit more sleep next week so I might feel a bit better myself soon.

Take care everyone.  Ailsa xx

Hi ALL .well it wont be long roll on 7.30 , come on Olly xxx

Well i've got my tree up , admit i got the kids to do it as they we're coming for their lunch . I haven't got the usual 6 footer , i've got a much smaller one and bought all new decorations , the've used a few of the old ones but as it wasn't me that didn't have to go through the decoration boxes it wasn't to traumatic , i was dreading having to do it but at least its done now . i'm relly hoping to catch up with everything next week . I had a good xmas night out , didn't get in till 2.45 , cant remember the last time i was out till that time , early night is beconing . Amanda the cheast sounds perfect , so glad you managed to track one down , i hope your feeling a little better today , but i'll come and spend a night on the ledge with you again ,Esme is there room for a little un ? .

Fiona i've been thinking about you today , i hope you've been ok hun ,and little Charlie has been a help to you xxx

Sue Gordon had hundreds of dvd,s , some never opened , if we do have a meet i will bring some , i know its to late now for you to take to the hospice but i'm sure there will always be a need for them xxx

Bren ((((((hug))))))))))) so sorry xxx

Dottee , bless you hun , i know its not a good place your in at the moment , i remember thinking how unfair it was when Gordon was in pain and you feel so helpless , i really hope they Alans pain under control and you get some kind of normality back again for christmas xxx

Just going to iron my uniform for work , then i'll be back .

Hope everybody has had a reasnable day xxxx

Lynnexxx

Tree up, eh!! Impressed.

I've actually written my cards today - god knows what I've put in them, but they're done.

this will be my tree at this rate!

~Boo hoo!

want my ironing as well?