My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Morning girls - I've obviously touched on something by offering 'higs'....................so more comforting (((((((((higs)))))))) to all you special people...............Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hello ladies,

Well you have been busy!  You all killed my email box lol!!! I have the replies to this thread emailed to me and I can pick them up on my phone although generally I don't as I download them on the computer, anyway, my mailbox got swamped so died.  I don't have the phone in yet grrrrr BT!!!  It was supposed to be done 31st but they are now saying 16th November so no internet as I don't get a good mobile signal in the house so can't even use my mobile broadband.  Move went okay although felt very lonely as no-one to share the new house with.  Really missed Wully towards the end of the week and was struggling a bit but I am back through in Falkirk today as I am still working here on a Monday and Tuesday so feel better.  I like to be at work as it keeps me occupied and generally when I am on holiday I still do my work but couldn't do that last week so felt very isolated as I couldn't even chat on here or Facebook.  I went to my mums a couple of times to use her internet but can't do that a lot because the boys go to bed at 7pm so I can't go out at night. 

House is lovely and I am more or less finished doing everything apart from having a new light fitted in my bedroom.  My new living room suite came on Saturday and it is lovely.  Feel very low in the house though as miss Wully and don't feel him around me even though i still have all his things about me including his dressing gown hanging up in the new bathroom.  The boys love it though and settled into school and nursery great so that is all that matters as I did it for them to be near family. I am sure I will settle eventually.  Can't believe I would miss the internet so much lol!!!!

Well, better get back to work as I have piles of stuff to do.  Hope you are all okay and bug higs to everyone (thanks dottee made me laugh too).  Fiona, thinking of you after the sad news about your cat.  Hello to everyone else.

Gayle xxx

Welcome back, gayle - won't be long now until you're connected. We've missed you on here - glad boys have settled well into their school and nursery. You're bound to find it strange - the same would have happened under any circumstances, and  it's doubly difficult for you.

Lots of love and (((((((((((((((((((higs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Sue x

just remember..........                                                                         

When the boxes are gone
And you've cleaned up the mess
You'll make a home of the house
That was just an address

Welcome back Gayle, I wish you well to enjoy your new house. You will soon get settled and hopefully enjoy living there. Isn't it lovely how quickly children adapt. What a pity we adults find it so much harder.

Sue, you always manage to say the right thing and find the most appropriate pictures for the situation. How wonderful. I hope that the children in your care have not been giving you too much trouble.

Fiona I hope that you are feeling s little less sad and lost today.

Hello to everyone else. Have a good evening.

Love and angel hugs x x Patricia x x

Gayle - good to see you back here again.........thought maybe you'd disappeared into one of your boxes??  I've kept everyone amused by sending them (((bug higs))) so after all your hard work over the last couple of weeks or so you too deserve lots of ((((((((((((bug higs))))))))))).................Dot xxxxxxxxxxxx

Evening everyone

Gayle glad you`re getting there. I`m sure Wully is right there by your side xxx

It is right though, you do miss the internet. I`d be lost without it!!!

Bug higs to everyone, lol!!!! Love it xxx

Helen xx

Hi all

Lovely to hear from you Gayle, and I agree with Helen - Wully is most definitely smiling at you and sending you a BUG HIG - (Dottee - this just gets better and better!) I can't imagine how frustrated I would be with no internet - the sooner they get that sorted the better.  Really sorry for doing in your in box!!

Monday again, although like many of you, they sometimes are a blessing and not much to report from Aberdeen.  Apart from this evening being shocked into total silence for over an hour!!!!

My older step-daughter has just become the proud possessor of a seven week old Dalmatian puppy.  'And what is wrong with that' I hear you all asking - She has a two and half year old and a one year old, both lovely boys, is looking at moving house, and her husband may well be going to work abroad again - yes you are right nothing so very wrong so far. 

But four years ago she bought a Border Terrier puppy as a wedding present for her husband, who used to be kept in an indoor cage most of the day while S/D was out and apparently she used to chew things " well, well what a surprise, puppies chew!!" and then she bought a spaniel puppy to keep the first dog occupied.  The spaniel was 'given away' before it was a year old and the lovely Border Terrier was also 'given away'' about nine months after the first baby was born because she was too much trouble.   

What on earth makes them think that buying a Dalmatian is a good idea ........ Aarrghhhh ..... as a confirmed dog lover I just hate to think of another dog going the same way, her dad would not be impressed.  But my S/D is a 'funny fish' and isn't alway the easiest., and does not take anything apart from total praise very well, so I have kept my mouth shut.

Ok, enough of my ranting.  Boy, of course, is an absolute delight LOL (no biased mum here then ..teehee)  Did I tell you of my latest gaff  - if I have already please feel free to yawn and I will take the hint - He phoned to tell me that he had placed an order for a couple of books (he is an avid and varied reader) and he wanted me to know that he was now the proud possessor of a 'First Edition' 1913 book.   And what did I say ........... just the most typical mumish thing ......... "Gosh hun, that's lovely - now you will have to look after it"   A couple of moment silence was followed by a laughing reply of "Oh, do you think so mum, I though I would just chuck it under the bed"!  Good job he has a sense of humour with me as a mother!!

Judi xxx

Evening All,

Thanks to you all for all your support well i am just getting use to being in house on my own sounds stupid but Scooby was good company for me. They are just like one of the family. Kim doing ok so we will just have to wait ,i so worry something is going to go wrong as not much has went right for me lately. I should not think like that. Gayle glad you are settling in and boys are doing ok. Dot luv and higs to you and i hope Alan doing ok? Sue i also love your pictures you post. Hope everyone else doing ok? I better get off to bed as working in the morning and still don't sleep well. Take Care Fiona xxxxxxx

Well Judi, I am totally dumbfounded that your daughter in law has even contemplated getting another dog after the previous history. I hope it is third time lucky with this one.

Maybe Boy only bought the book to prop up a wonky leg on the bed lol. You mad fool. I can actually hear you telling him to be a good boy and take care of his new book lol. when do we actually stop doing such things.

My eldest son has just returned from Shanghai. He said it looks just like any other city in the world with all the high rise buildings. Oh well, that's progress for you.

My youngest son told me he is planning to start riding his pushbike to work in the New Year. mmm..  I shan't hold my breath on the strenth of that information because I doubt very much it will happen and I don't suit blue skin lol.

Take care everyone and sleep well.

Love and angel huigs x x Patricia x x

Hello Ladies,

Just thought I would post a quick message before I am out of action again as I am about to finish work and head home.  BT phoned today to say they are fixing the fault in the cable on Friday so fingers crossed!

Thanks for all the nice messages - what a lovely saying Sue, and thanks for the bug higs - very funny lol!!!

Judi - what a nightmare buying a third dog!  Maybe it will be 3rd time lucky although dalmations are not known for being nice and calm.  My uncle had one when he was much younger and him and my dad went to the pub and left her in the car (back in the days when men did these kinds of things!), anyway when they came out Kim had totally wrecked the inside of the car with chewing and pooing lol!!!  My dad said the whole car was covered and you couldn't even see in the windows.  So he just said to my uncle - I think I will just get some fresh air and walk home which he did leaving my poor uncle with the said car and dog.  What a story - and always gets retold at family gatherings.

Well take care everyone and hopefully I will be online again soon to keep up with you all.

Take care and bug higs

Gaylexxx