My husband - Chris - died on the 2nd May 2009 because he had anal cancer. He knew he was going and we spoke about lots and lots of things before he died. That is why I am just not prepared for the huge amount of guilt I feel now. I feel guilty that the world hasn't stopped turning round even though he has died. I feel like everything should stop as a mark of respect. I also feel very guilty that he had to be so ill he had to die. What a cruel cruel thing it is to make someone so ill their body just stops working. I wasn't ready for him to go. I really really hope these are normal feelings because I must hang on to my sanity for the sake of my 3 children. I have never known sadness like I feel right now. I can't believe that I will not hear his voice or feel his touch again. We were married for almost 32 years and I have known Chris for 34 years - since I was 16. What happens now? Ailsa
Hi Everyone,
Well today not been bad for me either, work busy as our summer sale on. I also dread the dark nights. The wii fit sounds good Kev but is it just another thing i would buy and then it would be put to the side like all the rest. Really need to do something though as my weight creeping up and up.Well goodnight everyone better get off to bed and see how i sleep tonight.
Take Care
Fiona x
Hi everyone. Not had a bad day again today. I think this might be the longest I have gone without getting really down since Chris died. I've been okay since Monday. Something to celebrate so I will have a nice rewarding glass of wine when I have done a few jobs. I want to feel positive because I want to have a chance to remember good times with Chris - maybe I will get a chance shortly. I am really anxious to dream about Chris. I am not aware of dreaming about him so far but I have been taking nytol to make me sleep. I haven't taken any since the weekend and I am hoping maybe now I will dream about him soon.
I need to sort my Wii out before I can have a go with my Wii fit. I have a fortnight off work from next Thursday so I will try to sort it out then. Hope your dinner wasn't too burned Kev! Take care everyone. Ailsa xx
Hi Everyone,
My day not been to bad, just had a freind in tonight so we have had a good chat. I have only dreamt once about Derek and it was just on Sat night but it was one when he was in the hospital and i had to phone and see if he could get home so alas it was not a good one.
Gayle i got two letters one from the doctor that looked after Derek when he went in to the hospice and one from the nurse who looked after Derek when he went for his chemo but none from the oncologist but i thought she was very straight to the point and i didn't take to her. Hope all goes well with your house tomorrow. Where did you say you were hoping to move to?
Kev you will be kept busy now with your son on holiday. Well i am off tomorrow so have to do some work in the house before going to see my dad. My daughter has her big scan tomorrow so hope all ok with baby.
Take Care Everyone
Fiona xxxx
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