My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Good morning everyone.  Sorry I haven't been on over the weekend.  I had a hectic weekend and am very tired.  Not necessarily sure what I achieved either but that is another story.  This is just a very short post to say good morning particularly to Judi today.  We are all thnking about you and you know where we are if you need us.  I WILL be having a calmer evening so I can come straight back on after work and see how you are doing.  Love to everyone xxx

Morning all - just wanted to send good wishes for today to you all.................

And for Judi some comforting (((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) to help you through the next few days.............

Love and ((((hugs)))) to everyone Dot xxxxxxxx

morning, all

Lovely day here today - have eldest daughter and two granddaughteers visiting today, because my mum is staying with me for the week. Also have daughter in law and her two children popping in. Have to take Willow to the vet to have her stitches checked - she is one very cross kitten, as she has to wear a lampshade collar for a week. Really want to crawl back into bed, but chance would be a fine thing!

Hey ho, on we go.

Hope you all have a good day.

sue x

Hi All

Thinking of you today Judi and a big hug to you. Hope everyone else ok, i am just ready for work so just a short post hope i will get on later  Luv Fiona xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Morning everyone

Thinking of you today Judi xxxxx Are you doing anything to pass the day?

Have a lovely day Sue, half term and you have to get up lol!!! I`ve had a bit of a lie in. Have a good day Ailsa and Fiona.

Esme hope you`re calmer today. Have you heard from your daughter again? Hopefully she`ll be feeling brighter and enjoying her hols a bit more.People don`t understand but I suppose that`s something we all have to learn from, my daughter has got a bit disillusioned with some people and their promises that haven`t been kept since Paul died. Hard lesson!!

Hope everyone else`s Monday goes ok, I`m just catching up with jobs after the weekend then off to the building society to do last job on my list since losing Paul. Then hopefully everything is done

Speak later, Helen xxx

Hello everyone,

Thinking of you today and tomorrow Judi.  Hope you are okay xx

Well hectic week this week.  At work today and tomorrow, then pick up the keys for my new house on Wednesday and then have Thursday to finish off packing and cleaning then off on Friday!!  I am excited about new house and keep putting other thoughts to the back of my mind.

I had a look at the Newcastle hotels and have a few suggestions depending on what people are wanting to spend (these are all in city centre or thereabouts):

Saturday 27/2/10

Hilton - £109 including breakfast
Copthorne - £115 without breakfast
Marriott Hotel (Gosforth Park) - £72 (this was my favourite - close to A1/nice hotel/award winning food)

Holiday Inn - £60
Jury's - £60
Premier Inn - from about £50

Let me know what you think and if that date suits?

Gayle xx

Hi Judi, love and hugs to you for today and tomorrow. We are all thinking of you.

Esme, sorry your daughter is having such a rough time. I didn't realise she had been in an accident. If they were true friends they would be supporting  her not critiscise her for what she is going through.   I wonder how many of them have been through any of the traumas she has experienced in recent times.

Gayle that sounds wonderful but I will have to pass as that is the weekend that takes in Ray's  anniversary but wish you all well if you manage to get it organised.  I may be able to meet up with you all another time.

Hope you are all having a good day.

I spent my weekend getting lost in transit.  lol

I went to visit my son and took a wrong turn oops. completetly lost. I did eventually find my way and went out for a lovely meal. We had a good visit and he was fine after his marathon run in Snowdonia. Makes me tired just thinking about it.  his fiancee showed me photos of the Kimono she will be wearing at the Japanese Wedding reception (it takes an hour to be out into it).

Even got lost closer to home trying to find the venue for my little great-niece's 1st birthday celebration.

I will be on here later unless I get lost in transit lol

Love and angel hugs x x Patricia x x

Hi everyone

I guess its time for me to join this part of the site, I feel so lonly, yet I am surrounded with family and friends trying to help me through, I lost Liz , my wife, last Monday to Kidney c.....and I just can't stop crying, I miss her so so much.......what do I do now ?

I wrote Blogs beforehand and now read them back, even they make me cry because she was alive then.

This is too much to believe,    My sons have prepared for Thursdays Funeral with strength I just can't mustre,  

everything is unreal,    my bed is cold, although I still can smell her, and can't seem to get enough......

WHY DOES THIS HAPPEN TO US ???????

Phil

My dear Phil,

i am so, so sorry that you have had to join us on this site, but welcome anyway.  a horrible cliche, ~I know, but you are in the very early stages of grief; all i can say is that we have all been, and perhaps still are, just where you are now. There are no answers or shortcuts, Phil, but we can and will offer you friendship and support wherever we can.  believe it or not, we even manage to have a laugh at times, although nothing will be further from your mind at the moment.

you WILL get through the funeral; from somewhere, we acquire the strength to hold our heads uo high, walk tall and honour our loved ones in the way which is right for us. Keep the love that you have for each other in your heart, and no one or nothing can ever take it away from you.

Keep posting, Phil - we will be here for you.

Sue x

Hello Phil welcome to the thread nobody wants to join , but for me its been a life line , in the early days i'm sure i wouldn't have survived and even now its a continued support , i cant really think of any thing usefull to say to you because no words will help , that will come in time , but for now it does help to know that your not alone with your pain , and i know how much your hurting , i'm almost 17 weeks into this terrible life that no one wants , and i still cry everyday so dont worry about the crying , you will find a stregnth from your lovely wife to get through thurs , she will be helping you , and your boys will be with you , how old are they ? please keep posting , the ladies will be on later and they are far better than me at putting things into words . Take care

Lynne xxx