My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Hello everyone.  I feel so much better this morning.  I slept for 9 hours - I don't think I have ever done that in my life before.  I was so tired I couldn't concentrate.  But - this morning the sun is out and I feel like I can tackle some more of my sitting room.  I need to save a bit of me for tonight though as it is the first time I have been out socialising in the evening with work since before May.  I am supposed to have a drink as well!

You're holiday photos are lovely Lynne.  You and your sisters look so alike and the weather looked brill.  Like so many others I watched Benidorm last night and thought of you!!!  I don't want to dwell on the handbag snatch but when it happened to me it was a car full of youngsters.  They drove their car at mine and trapped my trolley between their car and mine and then the front passenger stretched out and took my handbag before the car drove off.  I am over it now but I was so angry at the time.  Now that it has been mentioned your experience and mine should serve as a reminder to everyone else just to be a little more aware of our surroundings.  It still looks to me like your holiday was exactly what you needed.

I'm glad to hear that Kim can take a rest for a couple of weeks now Fiona.  Very soon we will all be waiting anxiously for news from you.  Have a good day everyone.  Ailsa xx

Morning - Ailsa nine hours sleep, you must have really needed it,  well done you.  Maybe that happened so that you can be refreshed for this evening and will manage to relax with your friends.  I think that from 7 onwards I will be channel hopping between Strictly and X factor, and probably manage to miss the dancing and singing and just get all the guff inbetween!  You are getting through your to do list really well, aren't you.

Lynne - like the others, so sorry that you and your sisters went through that.  But am really glad that you had sunshine and enjoyed being with them.  I have already pictured you filling your flask ready to go to your bench and pass on the stories.  I hope you have better weather than us today - pouring rain again!

Gayle I just love the picture of you getting 'a wiggle on' as you are packing those boxes.  Hope the boys enjoy the caravan.  My son used to go away with mum and dad and their caravan when he was little and thought it was just the best.  Your rose sounds gorgeous - I think that sometimes it is quite nice to something just for yourself.   

Dot, just you treasure every moment with Alan and keep finishing his sentences for him (and sending hugs!)  Helen, I hope that you are managing if you are having 'a weepy time'.  Treat yourself to a duvet day and just snuggle.   I just bought the new Barbra Streisand CD because I love her voice - and it is beautiful, but unless you are feeling 'man mountain' strong I gaurantee that you will be bubbling within the first couple of songs.  

Fiona - How lovely that Kim wanted to be there for the last day before the holidays.  It would have been so easy for her to think - I'll just stay off.  Hopefully this break will get her back to full fitness.  

I started the day full of vim and vigour but can feel it waning - so shall go downstairs and see if I can think of something to do to keep me busy ........ no  ..... it won't be the ironing.   I really don't like Saturdays, more than any other of the week I have a problem with them.  I am thinking of popping into the three resteraurants/hotels that are quite near me and offering my services - but just on a Saturday.  Not sure what they will think of that idea, but you never know.

Speak later

Judi xx

Wow, well done Ailsa, That sleep will do you good! I had similar too, lovely morning here, been  to order my flooring for the utility room that I decorated over the summer so that`s getting done at half term. It was so nice just taken the dog out for a walk.

Judi that sounds like a good idea, I used to work in a B & B when I was at college, loved it, met some really nice people. I`m ok at the moment, the tears are just par for the course aren`t they? No duvet day here, I`m getting reviewed at the gym this afternoon!! Weighed and measured, bets being taken on how many cms, mms I might have lost off my leg lol!!! Don`t think I`ve lost any weight....comfort eating!  Will let you all know later.

I was talking to someone last night about Salsa classes, wondering whether to give it a go??

Well I `ve got ironing to do

Have a nice day everyone, speak later

Helen xxx

Helen - give the salsa classes a go.  I went a few years ago ready for a hen do in a salsa club.  It isn't hard to learn the basics and it really keeps you fit.  I am going to a Cuban restaurant with dancing to a band from Havana when I go to London for my sisters hen do next month so I am so glad I did the salsa classes before.  It is such a fun dance.  Good luck with your review at the gym.  You went down a dress size when you started going didn't you?  I bet you are loads fitter than you were.

I don't have any dogs to walk so I am cracking on today with this sitting room.  The coving is coming down well now - I found a knack!  Stu is going to help tomorrow.  Ailsa xx

I'm back - I find it really irritating that I can only see the last post when I am trying to answer.  Judi if your vim & vigour has vamooshed sit down and relax with your Barbra Striesand CD.  I was going to say I don't think I could listen without tears but then I have just been playing sargeant pepper's lonely hearts club - like that is any better! - it is more up-beat than it sounds though.

I've finished my coffee break so I am going back to the coving demolishion.  Enjoy the day.  Ailsa xx

Just thought I would say that if I went dared to into a gym for a review there would be lots of shaking heads and tutting and then they would lock me in!!!

Judi x

Lynne, glad to see you had a good time but sorry about the nasty person who stole the bag.  Hope your sis is not too traumatised.  My mum got mugged many years ago. Somone pulled up in a car and asked her a question. When she leaned over they grabbed her bag and drove of dragging her along with them.  They broke her humerous bone and she had pain for the rest of her life. They were caught but how wicked to do that to anyone.

Kevin, hope you are happy x x

Dottee, Alan and you have something very special.  Hang on to it for as long as you can. Love and hugs to you both.

All you busy ladies are making me feel so, so tired.

I had a busy night at work. It was a little odd but we got through it. When it came time for the 'handover' my collleague and I went in together and she decided to hand over for both of us.  Her voice was so soothing that I found myself being lulled to sleep.  It is a strange feeling when you feel yourself drifting off.  I hope no-one noticed that I actually did 'drop off'' for a few seconds.  How embarrassing. I have had 3 hours sleep since I came home and have another shift to do tonight. Wish I could start to push out the zzzzzzzzz's for more that an hour or so at a time.

I do hope that you all managing to do the things you are planning for today.

Thanks everyone for all the support you give.  I feel priviledged to have found you all (hope that doesn't sound too sugary). 

Love and angel hugs to you all x x Patricia x x

Hi again

Patricia it doesn`t sound sugary at all, I don`t know what I`d be like if I hadn`t found this thread. It has helped me so much (((())))) Group hug xxxxx

Ailsa I did go down a trouser size but maybe they were generous fitting!!!! I`m not too worried if I haven`t changed I go to the gym for something to do although at my last review the instructor asked if my husband/partner had noticed a change in me!! I hadn`t mentioned anything about Paul up to then although I did mention caring for him on my induction form. Poor fella but he handled it well and said how sorry he was!!

Good luck with your decorating and have a lovely night tonight and a few drinks!!

Helen xxx

Judi, you make me laugh. I am sure they would be far too proffessional to tut and shake their heads lol!!! They`d just do it after we left ha ha!!

Helen xxx

Helen, in my case I think they would openly 'point and laugh' and the machine would scream 'get off you fat heifer' lol.   Well done on your good work.  I think my weighing scales shrink away when I approach. hahaha

Love and angel hugs x x Patricia x x