My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Hi Ladies , well i'm back all in one piece (just ) i've been catching up on all your posts , please forgive me for not replying to them all , my brain is not in gear yet . I will catch up properly over the next couple of days . We,vehad lovely weather every day (30deg) lots of food , plenty of sun and maybe a few drinks , well we we're all inclusive so we had to take advantage . But i know your all going to be gutted for us as on thurs night we we're mugged , when i say we , it was my little sisters bag he got . We we're walking back to the hotel , not late as we we're all tired , we could see the hotel door and we we're very relaxed, when someone suddenly came from nowhere (possibly from behind a parked car) he had grabbed the bag and was away down the street before any of us could react . I was just behind them and the first i knew was when my sister cried out "my bag " i wasn't even aware of any one else near us , he was so quick , we couldn't even say what he looked like .  A man and a woman walking a little way behind us saw him but they couldn't even say what he looked like he was so fast . We went to the hotel night porter and he just shrugged and smirked as if to say what do  you expect , we insisted he called the police who told my ssi we had to go th the police station the next morning . We did n't get much sleep that night , we had to phone my niece as she would be able to cancel the phone that was i the bag . There wasn't much money in as we did n't take much out , but the phone was only a few weeks old . Now we know it could have been worse at least no one was hurt , but we are so annoyed at thre hotel , apparantly it was happening all the time , but why cant they warn people , we would have got taxis , even though it wasn't a long walk . We wasn't drunk or falling about , just in the wrong place i think . My sis was in floods of tears at first but she said after she was glad it was her bag and not mine as she said i wouldn't have coped with another trauma , (i think she's right ) She's still can't belive it happened and said that she wishes she'd held on to the bag , i said i'm glad she didn't as he would have hurt her to get the bag . We would go again but we would never walk alone again at night , or make sure everything is in our pockets with no hand bags ..

We had lots of chats and a few tears but it was better than being sat here on my own . I will put some pics on face book now .

Hope everybody is ok , Missed you all

Lynne xxxxx

Dot you are so lovely and thoughtful.  Lots of love to you and Alan x

Gayle, I'm sure you will get a 'wriggle' on tomorrow.  I need to work on my sitting room before I go out tomorrow so I am off to bed now!  With some hot chocolate from my special machine and watch something I have sky+'d.

Hope it's nice tomorrow.  Ailsa xx

Hello Lynne,  it's lovely to have you back but what a horrible thing to happen.  I am glad you had a good time up until then but I am so sorry to hear that that happened when it was all going so well.  I know how your sister feels as I had my handbag snatch in a supermarket car park in Wakefield three years ago.  It is very scary but so annoying and frustrating because you just keep thinking if only...  The most important thing is that you are all okay.  The things can be replaced no matter how new they are.  I will watch for your photos on facebook but it is nice to hear from you again.  Ailsa xx

Dear Dot,

No-one would ever think that you were rubbing it in; we have all been where you are now, and we understand about the 'borrowed time' feeling.   I'm sure that you will be borrowing lots more time yet; huge hugs to you and Alan.

Sue x

Dear Lynne

so glad to have you back, but what a bummer about your sister's bag. however, as Ailsa says, things can be replaced; as we know, people can't.  As long as no-one was hurt, all will be well.

Will look on fb for your photos.

Sue x

Hello all, how are you all doing? There are so many pages for me to read and I haven't read them yet.

Kev xx

Thanks girls - Lynne I'm pleased to see that you all got back in one piece  - and I hope your sister soon recovers from her ordeal.  How awful that the local people (police and all) didn't seem too bothered by it.  Maybe their standards are different??  Love and ((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) to you all Dot xxxxxxxxxx

Dot you are doing great, not rubbing it in xxx

Welcome home Lynne, your pics are great, looks like you had fun. So sorry to hear about your sister`s bag. Just glad you were all ok.

Hi Kev, what you up to?

Helen xxx

Hi Kev , hope your both ok , glad its going well with Janiejane .

Thanks ladies , yes it was only a bag and she will get the phone back with the insurance , just so annoyed that theses people keep getting away with it ,Ailsa so sorry it happened to you too , its the shock and speed of things that get to you isn't it ? 

Lynne xxxxx

 Evening All,

Nice to have you back Lynne, sorry to hear about your sisters bag but as Ailsa says as long as no one was hurt her phone can be replaced i have had a look at your photos on facebook it looked lovely and hot. Dot you are doing well hang in there. Like everybody else i miss Derek more and more each day we had a great marriage and enjoyed time by ourselfs we were rarely out and always together and never thought for one minute i would be on my own. I have not done anything with his stuff yet everything is still where he left it don't know when i will ever feel i can do anything with it but i am sure he will be shouting at me to get rid of it,.

Kim was at school today but she is not much better but she wanted to go as last day before the holidays but thats her on holiday for two weeks so hopefully a good rest will help her, she then has another 3 weeks then she is on maternity leave not be long now, i am looking forward to the baby coming although i think we will all be sad as well.

I was at a body shop party tonight at my friends so passed the night for me. Well i better get off to bed now as working in the morning, hope everyone is ok.

Take Care

Fiona xxxxxxxxx