My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Well you can all relax ladies i only got as far as the car and it was making a funny noise , i think thats the technical term , so i drove to my sisters still and she got BIL to listen to it well bloody hell its the cam belt and a bearing so thats going to cost a packet . I went into panic mode (not like me at all ) i phoned my son said i couldn't pick the kids up and me and sis did what any woman would do in my sittuation , we went shopping for clothes for holls , probably not the wisest thing to do as i dont know what the car is going to cost yet , but i got 3 tops and a pair of leggings so at least i've go something to wear next week . I,ve phoned the garage and i'm taking it in tommorow at 8  , but i am dissapointed that i cant do the drive tommorow to sort the headstone out , i'm hoping i can do most over the phone and e mail images etc , but i've yet to tell my S/D as i know she wanted to go with me tommorow , but there is nothing i can do now . I can still sort the bench out (phew) my son will pick me up from the garage and take me to the cemetery where i am meeting the council workers with the bench . My sis is then picking me up but she might have trouble dragging me away lol . I hope everybody is having a better day than me . I am still going to the christening , we've just had to arrange a lift of someone else .

Take care all .

lynnexxxxxx

Hello ladies,

Well got the garage finished - yippeee!!!!  It was torture but it is all sorted now and just need to get the various people to pick up the bits and pieces that are for them.  Judi - I am moving because we live about 1.5hrs from my family so that Wully could be near his family (fat lot of good they are but thats another story) so I want to be back near my own family.  For all different reasons but mostly practical to help out with the kids when I am work etc.  I am also supposed to be downsizing but that hasn't quite worked out lol!!!

Sorry to hear about the car Lynne.  This is when we miss our men most isn't it when practical things like that happen.  Hope the bench goes well though (and the christening).

Ailsa, you sound like your weekend has gone okay but try and slow down before you burn yourself out.

Helen, I have heard about the bucket list but unfortunately Wully was in complete denial even though he had been told he didn't have long.  He thought they were wrong so didn't make any big plans.  What a lovely comment the person made about the list being short.  Hope the bike viewing goes okay.

Debs, glad you are a bit busier today and that should keep you occupied.  Need to get myself to a gym too lol!!

Patricia - glad the day went okay.  You have a lovely family who really care for you and helped ease the day.  I always find it a comfort when people are thinking of you.  Are you going to Japan?  How exciting!

Take care everyone.  I am off for lunch and then have to do some work work as I keep putting it off and a couple of clients have deadlines that I need to meet.   Suppose it pays the bills so I can't complain.

Gayle xx

Hi, all

Another glorious day here ; been to church this morning, and Lynne -what a bummer about your car! still. you will be glad to know that you have inspired me this afternoon- yes, retail therapy it is!!!

next Sunday Alice and i are going to Bournemouth to a joint ruby wedding celebration for two  of Alan's cousins, so there will be a mighty gathering of his clan. I feel that a new frock AT THE VERY LEAST is called for, maybe shoes - who knows? It will be very odd to be with all his family and not him, as they are very close, but they are a great crowd and I'm sure that it will be  OK.  I'm borrowing a friend's satNav, because although I've been many times I've never driven the route, so therefore took absolutely no notice of the turnings. I know - typical female!!!

sounds as though everyone is getting on with things -   I'm taking the easy way when it comes to decorating, and I'm getting a man in!   I enjoy decorationg, but i don't have the time now i'm working full time again, nor to be honest the energy!  getting older.............................

have a good afternoon

sue x

Hi everyone.  Sorry to hear about the car Lynne.  Hope it doesn't cost too much.

I've run out of paint so that is a good excuse to stop :D  I painted 3 out of 5 garden gates and most of the bird bath.  I got some huge cadboard lids from work and used them to protect the surrounding area so that I could use spray paint - it worked a treat.  I will get some more paint on Tuesday and finish off next weekend if it is dry.

Enjoy the ruby wedding celebration with Alice next week Sue.  Hope you get a new dress AND new shoes today.

Well done clearing the garage Gayle - that is another thing ticked off the list.

Hope everyone else is having a good day.  I'm going to get changed and nip to the cememtery before going out for my lunch.  Take care everyone.  Ailsa xx

Hope the car isn`t going to cost too much Lynne xxx You can have a drink at the christening now thought if you`re not driving!!

I sold Paul`s bike, and it`s gone so got more space in the shed now!! Just given it a brush!

Son has gone out in the car!! 1st day he`s insured in it. I went out with him first.My stomach feels all over the place for some reason??? He`s been fine in the other one but I have told him this one has to last for a long time and is very new!! I`m sure he`ll be ok, just the way I`m feeling. Worry about the smallest thing lately.

Got a few jobs I want to do but have sat down and lost all enthusiasm!!

Helen xxx

Hi everyone

Lynne so sorry to hear about your car. Why do these things happen at the most awkward of times, but glad that you can still continue with most of your plans.

Gayle well done on tackling that garage of yours, bet its a real relief to you now that its done. Liam was just like Wully when it came to being in denial. He would never discuss even the possibility that the tumour would eventually beat him. He accepted that it had left him severly disabled but never really saw it as killing him. I suppose that was partly down to him having the tumour for so long and he always reacted well to any treatment that they threw at him. The one thing he really wanted to do was watch Liverpool live as he had been a fan all his life. We were so lucky because work organised for us to go to Liverpool watch the game and have a tour of the ground as well as putting us up in a top hotel for the weekend. it was a lovely gesture and one I know that Liam relished and often looked back on. I had gone on a career break in june so that we could spend time together and enjoy ourselves, unfortunately it was about a week later that he started to go down hill. I so regret not leaving work earlier like Liam had wanted, but at the time we thought we had years ahead of us.

Sue i hope you enjoyed your retail therapy and managed to spoil yourself sufficiently. It's lovely that you are able to get together with Alans family, i hope you have a really great time.

Hope you had a good lunch Ailsa, sounds like you deserved it with all that painting and I thought you were having a relaxing weekend lol.

Afternoon girls - what a hive of activity you all are!!  Busy little bees.....clearing garages and sheds, painting and decorating, gardening.......I'm exhausted!!!!  And that's just from reading your lists of jobs done!!!!  We've been on a 'duty' call to see my ma-in-law (Alan fondly calls her 'The Dragon'!!!).  Our relationship has been a bit rocky at times - but we get on reasonably well these days.  Am looking forward to the Mac-Ramble in a few weeks from now...........Lynne did you get my p/m with the details for registering????  Let me know and I can re-send it if need be........... Enjoy the rest of Sunday - it is supposed to be a day of rest - so why do we work hardest on this day??????  Love and (((((hugs)))))  Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

hi, Dot

what  a coincidence -  alan always called my mother 'The dragon, ' to the extent that she started to refer to herself in the same way!  Must be a northern thing.....

just returned from retail therapy, which was a bit disappointinbg - couldn't find a dress anywhere! Bought a top in Wallis, but might have to look elsewhere one evening this week. no shoes either; must be losing my touch.

Going to put my feet up for an hour now; then ironing. Yuk!

sue x

Hi Sue - Alan is an 'honorary Yorkshireman' - his family originally comes from Surrey!!!!!  But I don't hold it against him!!!!  Though there are times when the north/south divide is very obvious in our house!!!!  And he has me in fits of laughter when he tries out his version of a Yorkshire accent!!!!!!  Not able to find anything to wear??  Sue you must be losing your touch!!!  Or did you just want another excuse for more retail therapy???  Hey! Who needs an excuse!!!!  I'm off to a local retail outlet this week cos I need some sweatshirts/jumpers without hoods.....all I've found in town have hoods attached and I don't like them.  My sons laughed and asked me which of the local gangs of 'hoodies' I was thinking of joining!!!!!  I just asked them to pass me the cans of spray paint so I could graffitti a wall!!!!!!  Son Number 2 said he'd look forward to me becoming one of his 'clients'!!!!  Such loyalty!!!!!!!!  Love and (((((hugs))))) Dot xxxxxxxxxxx

Hi everyone, sorry but this new site isn't very good, I've had trouble finding out where everything is and seem to have people as friends i don't know. I will just try this to see if it woks.

Kev xx