My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Hugs Lynne what a horrible thing to happen. Hopefully it was just a kid who did it who didn't know any better. I can see how it would upset you.

Thanks for adding me as a friend Ailsa. I loved the picture of Chris at the football although I found it incredibly sad. I know you say he died not long after and I too have similar photos as Wully went to the Scottish Cup Final (unbelievable Falkirk made it!!!) just a couple of weeks before he died and he has the exact same look about him. It was so familiar that I found it upsetting as he looks a lovely man.

Take care everyone and hopefully tomorrow brings a brighter day for us all.

Gayle xx

Forgot to tell you all. Got an appointment tomorrow morning with the `stepping stones` group at our hospice. It is actually with the social worker who we met last year when Paul was first re diagnosed. Not really sure how useful it will be with her but hoping to find out about other groups/meetings they do. Also worried as I know as soon as she asks `how are you?` I`ll be blubbing!! Really want to ask about his last night and why everything went downhill so quickly. I wasn`t warned/prepared!!

I`ll let you know how I get on

Helen xxx

Thanks Gayle. Chris died just 8 days after that picture was taken but it is the memory it made for Stu that counts. Good luck with the studying for the exams in December. I am going to have a good look round some photos on FB tomorrow evening but for now I need to go to bed. Hope the shopping was good Sue. Glad to hear that Liam is a careful driver Helen. Night Fiona, Kaz & Kev and anyone else whose still up and around. Ailsa xx

I really would like to hear how you get on at the stepping stones appointment tomorrow Helen if you don't mind. When I get back from camping I am going to find out how I get counselling. I am more sure than ever that I need it but not sure how to go about getting it. Ailsa xx

Ailsa, was just logging off but couldnt help but look on here..I do all the time but dont like to intrude. Regarding the counselling, my GP referred me to CRUSE and had my first appt last week. Took about 3 wks to get the appt. Too early to say if it helps but think it should be worthwhile to get some issues out of the way. Hope this helps. x

Thanks Coral. I will try my GP. Intrude away - I intrude on your thread and we all help each other. Good night xx

Just poped in on my break to check out the posts. Lynne, so sorry you found things had been taken or moved. Kev enjoy your break. Sue hope you enjoyed your shoping trip. Helen congratulations to your son on passing his test. Fiona don't wear yourself to a frazzle. Gayle glad your son is enjoying school. Hope you all manage to get a good night's sleep. I will think of you while I am working lol. Sorry if I forgot anything. Sue, dot and Ailsa hope you are all ok. Here's hoping tomorrow (Tuesday) brings better things for you all x x Love and angel hugs x x Patricia. p.s. got my car back on the road and now have a less happy bank balance.

Morning ladies and Kev thank you for all your support last night , i actually went back to look at the photos as i couldn't believe it had gone , i had to check i had put it there (i knew i had cos the banner had been thrown away ) I'm going to buy a new litle doggy at the weekend and keep it this time , it wont be the same as i had covered him in plastic and sat him in a basket , but at least i'll have him , my goodness how can i get hung up over one little thing but i think it was just the thought of someone not caring enough to leave it . When you meet caring people all day and night , like yourselves its hard when you come against a total ************ ..
Hope it goes well today Helen , i,ve had a letter from the hospice (even tho Gordon was never in there ) and the mac nurse only called once . I think its 3 open days and things and to decide if you want to talk to anyone , i'll probably go along as it will meen i can talk about my favorite subject my husband ..
Trisha what is it you do to be working nights , you might have said so sorry if i've forgotten .
Sue you have given so much support as we others have gone back to work so i hope we can support you the same ..
Hi to Ailsa the pot sounds lovely , we'll expect to see photos of it when its done .. Hi Fiona , Gayle , Coral and Kaz and Dot , have i missed any one of our team ? Sorry if i have it is early . Hope you have a good day ..

Lynne xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Morning everyone,

Lynne sorry to hear what happened that is just awful, whoever done that has to live with it.

Helen good luck with the stepping stones.

Hope everyone else is ok.

Kev xx