My husband died in my arms on the 2nd May (2009) - what happens now?

Hi Everyone,

Congratulations to your son Helen. I remember passing my test and how exciting it was - I am sure he is bounding about!

I have had an okay day today. Have to cut the grass but can't be bothered so think I will leave it to tomorrow.

Jamie had his first full day at school today and survived so that was good. My mum is here staying tonight (she will come through every Monday, pick up the kids from their places, stay Monday and go home Tuesday night) so I better go and keep her company.

Night everyone.

Gayle xx

Well done to Liam Helen!!!
Hi everyone. I am a bit late catching up tonight. Had to go shopping ready for next weeks camping trip. I am really looking forward to it but apprehensive as well. Chris loved camping and asked us to make sure we kept going in a video he left. So this one's for him. It is the first time we have all camped together. Should be fine though as we are taking 4 tents - won't get on top of each other.
I need to cut my grass as well gayle - but the rain saved me from it for today at least lol!
I will try to go onto FB tonight and request some friends - makes me sound like I haven't got any but I know what I mean!!! I need to look back at posts to check some names out first.
I am sure you will be fine if you go back to work steadily Sue. Thursday must be 'the day' as that is when my grandson goes back to school next week.
Hope you have a good weekend in Devon Kev. Hi Lynne, Kaz and Fiona - how are you all doing?
Ailsa xx

Hi all,

Thanks Alsia I will and have a good camping holiday and don't forget your blow up bed.

Kev xx

Hi Every body , first of all well done to Liam , what a star .
I've been sat here all night not wanting to post as i'm gutted for want of a better word . I went to the grave tonight (as usual) and a cuddly toy i'd left had gone and the happy birthbday sash roundit had been ripped off and thrown down ,How can anybody steal from a grave ?The little dog probably did look expensive but it wasn't but it was priceless to me . i'm upset angry sad , dont know what else to say . I thought i'd done well this weekend but this has knocked me for 6 . Dam the insensative person who can do such a thing ..

Lynne xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ps hope everybody is having a better evening than me .xxxx

Dear Lynne



I'd replace your cuddly dog if I could but as I don't know where to send it I'll send a ((((((((hug))))))))) to comfort you instead. Some people are so mean - it's really beyond belief..............I only hope they can sleep at nights..............



Strength, love and more comforting (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) to you



Dot xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Thanks ladies , i couldn't print what i'm thinking about the person who did this , its not the toy that has gone its the fact that whoever has done it was in the church yard for a reason they must have lost someone so they know what it feels like but still they would take something of someone elses grave i hope it was a child and the parents didn't know where it had come from , that is a better thought that someone just taking it for the sake of it ..Yes i'm sure its just a blip Sue , i'll get over it but still so angry ..

Lynne xxxxxxxxxxxxx
ps picture made me smile xx

Lynne, I know it`s easier said than done but don`t let them get you down. Like already said you have done so well this weekend xxxx

Sue, how did the shopping go? Kev enjoy your weekend, hope you`re ok. You`ve been a bit quiet lately xxxx

Ailsa have a lovely trip, I love camping!!!

Liam is very excited!! We`ve insured my car and he`s been out for a drive, I went with him and he is very careful. Hope he stays that way!! He`s gone to the match tonight, season ticket all sorted. Natalie`s got a friend sleeping over.

I`ve got all my candles lit having a quiet night in front of the tv, tears from the weekend seem to have stopped.

Hope everyone has a peaceful night

Helen xxx

Thanks Helen , i know i'm taking it hard it just seems so personal but i will get over it .. You've got a ready made chaufeur now then cool .
Sorry i'm not much use to anybody tonight , hope to have a better day tommorow .. Night night ..

Lynne xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Lynne. Sorry about what has happened. I had another look at the photos on FB so I could see the little dog. It is best to do as you say and choose to hope that a child took it. The most important thing is you gave it - after that nothing matters. One of Stu's friends who is a stonemason is making a special vase for Chris's grave. He told Chris about it before he died. It will have a Man Utd logo on one side and a message from each of the 3 kids on the other sides. Chris was touched that Ryan wanted to do it but was convinced that it would be stolen or vandalised. Ryan's answer says it all - it won't be, but if it is I will make another. You can be annoyed and upset tonight but then try to remember that it is the fact that you put it there in the first place that counts. Ailsa xx