Hi all
does anyone feel like they are having a better day then all of a sudden have a massive low ?.
Hello Dan.
Yes this does happen. Still does to me. Some days you may feel that you are moving forwards and feeling positive for the future and then something happens like a giant wave that knocks you right back as if you shouldn't be thinking as you are. All part of the grieving process unfortunately but as I've said many times we are all different and may experience different little incidents we may put down to grief. You will probably feel this more with where you are at just now. Take Care.
Vicky
Oh yes Dan, happens all the time. You are so early in your grief, you will still have this full range of overwhelming emotions. I still have lows most days, perhaps not for the whole day but at different points.
Try not to expect so much of yourself, hard I know, I am always being told Im really hard on myself when Im really not coping.
Just talk it through when you can and if you want to.
It’s so depressing. Been ok today until about an hour ago then boom so low. Have been out with the kids had nice few hours come home the kids are all watching a film then suddenly I feel awful. I know I am at the beginning of this awful journey but it feels like I will never be happy again
You will Dan. Maybe take a while at moment but you will feel that `shift` a little further on. Take Care.
Yes Dan. Regularly. I went shopping today ,took a sedative beforehand thinking that will help ,as I was already tearful this morning. I forgot my money so had to come back. Walking around Asda trying to be quick. Kept forgetting things on my list. Then felt the wave coming on. I have a bit of a cold and felt my nose running,held my hand to it until I found a tissue. Got to the till and noticed blood on my hands. I had a nose bleed. I always think that's a release from raised blood pressure . I just needed to get out ,but had to put my things through. I screamed most of the way home , and cried . At least nobody can hear me when I'm driving. You are still in very early grief ,so really you have to expect the waves . Though it is unsettling. How does it affect you ,? I had terrible panic attacks at first up to about 6-7 months. Not quite as bad now . But maybe I'm learning to cope better.
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