So today would have been Jay's birthday. Wished him `Happy Heavenly Birthday` via Facebook and the response I got from everyone was wonderful so many `likes` and a few messages lets me know at least there are still people out there who remember him. I just spent the day trying to keep busy and looking at photos and remembering our good times As we got older birthdays weren't that important to us but it just takes something like this to cause a trigger and to just bring home the fact that he is gone. We would have been going out to dinner somewhere no doubt but have just spent today and tonight with my memories. Bittersweet couple of days coming up it was Jay's birthday today and this weekend it is my son and daughter in laws first wedding anniversary so this time is sort of a marker for me with remembering his birthday and my sons wedding anniversary. I am sure he would have been somewhere around today though celebrating and remembering with me.
Hi PattyK
Thinking of you and wishing Jay a belated happy heavenly birthday. It's lovely to hear that so many people joined you on social media to remember him.
I hope that you're doing ok and that your son and daughter-in-law have a lovely first wedding anniversary.
Take care
Hi Patty, I hope those shared memories helped you through Jays heavenly birthday and your sons wedding anniversary. I havent got to a first Tony birthday, so Ive no idea how I will feel. I hope you felt his prescence around you in one way or another.
Birthdays werent that important to us either usually a meal out.
Hugs to you x
PattyK,
I hope you are ok, and that you had some wonderful memories. Which I know can be bitter and sweet.
Take care
Today, the 14th is my beautiful Valen’s birthday.
All our family and true, good friends have renamed it Valen’s Day.
So I received messages from them saying “Happy Valen’s Day”
People want to say Happy Birthday Valen. But it’s not happy as he is not here to enjoy it. So they don’t know what to say instead.
And last year a few family and friends said they felt insensitive if they sent Valentines messages on Facebook etc.
So we came up with Valen’s Day and I am happy with that and they are happy with that.
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