Still missing him

You both are doing well. Toosoon, it must be nice seeing the difference you have made. MrsVT be careful of the borg.

It's crap not been able to talk to our missing partner, you know what I mean we all talk to them, but even if you do something good, there not there, to boost your ego. I just hang and tag at the moment, I don't think I could handle to many people on the till.

Wow! Just reading some of these posts and it seems some of you are a good bit on in your grief I thought I was with being two years in but 11 and 4 years? just goes to show that there is indeed no time limit for grieving. I have something to celebrate though. My 2nd little granddaughter arrived last Thursday (23rd October) she arrived 2 weeks early so similar as my son was the same all those years ago. I have still to physically meet her but that will happen soon. I have been looking after my other little granddaughter for a couple of days but she has gone back home now so something to thankful for just wish Jay was here to see it he would be all over this but as I have said before I just content myself that he is watching from afar somewhere. Take Care everyone.

Vicky xx

Oh Vicky such lovely news in amongst all the rubbish. 
I rejoice for you and this new tiny spark of light.

Dear SB, It's 4 years for me & like you I have no desire for a new partner, because I know I'll never find another Sharon. Which is really all I want, to be with my one true love again After 12 months of being on my own I decided to take up a new interest, I started lessons to learn to play the clarinet ! I find this helps, at least some of the time, as it gives me a purpose & a sense of achievement. I also took on a role of volunteer in my last cal Hospice shop, which I really enjoy, meeting lots of different people & a feeling of paying back the hospice for the care they afforded Sharon during her final days.

Going out on your own is not easy, but in March this year I plucked up the courage to take a week's holiday in Tenerife on my own. I almost didn't go at the last minute because it was so out of my cfort zone. I'm so glad I made the effort, yes it was somewhat emotional as I used to go with Sharon,  but I genuinely enjoyed the break in the sun. I came back feeling really good of my achievement, have now again for February next year

Try to accept a life on your own, with your loving husband watching over you, & being so proud to see you taking on new adventures on your own.

You'll be surprised how strong you can be, even when you're on your own.

Best Wishes 

Paul x

I'm the same Tilly's Dad.

Forty Years Jay and I were together. I'm 63 in a few weeks time so not really bothered about all that nonsense of finding someone else. I am quite happy in my own company though being a natural introvert. But they say you're never too old to find love and if it happens, it happens but I'm not really going out of my way looking for it. I have my family and now two beautiful granddaughters and I am a carer for my older sister so this all keeps me going. Saves me from wearying and I've got back into a few of my hobbies too. Miss Jay so much though and as I have said before just wish he could come back for one day just to see how far I have come on since he passed and how everyone else is navigating life. I wish you all the best. 

Vicky x