Two weeks on now and the day after my husband’s direct cremation which was simple dignified respectful and quick. I started decorating the hallway today pretty stupid really as last time I did it my beloved was lending me a hand passing paint up to me or offering tips I know I’ve messed up I can’t do the stairwell on my own . The thing is I’ve also been doing some touching up in the kitchen too I just need to pace myself but also it’s Keeping me busy I think I’ve taken. But too much on today! At least I might sleep a bit better?……
I read somewhere someone said to write few things down for the next day and have a plan and a goal which some days I’ve been doing but gone a bit off piste ..I will miss my husband admiring my handy work and appreciation it’s just me here now part of me thinks why am I bothering!
Hi Toosoon glad to hear that all went well with hubby's cremation.. It is so early in the process of grieving for you but you sound as if you are keeping yourself busy..I imagine that doing too much may become a feature in the next few weeks and months simply to keep you occupied. Could you take some photos of your handiwork and view them yourself as I'm sure you won't have taken it all in either. Thinking of you and sending hugs your way . Gailx
Hi Toosoon
Good on you for managing to do some decorating inside the home it's almost 2 years since my husband passed and I haven't even attempted that. I have done some outside though and painted the fence in our garden and decking area. It's not great but tidies the place up a bit if nothing else. Painting was always his department but still trying to attempt things on my own a drop in income means that I don't have the funds to get people in to do things like we used to. I've tried to do that `make a plan` or `rota` for what to do what on each day every week but it tends to go the other way. Maybe work for you though. Works for some not so for others. Wish you well moving forwards.
Vicky x
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